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It gets me so mad Rant!

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 08:34

I have been trying to avoid another site I go on because its full of trolls and unsympathetic women but this morning made the mistake of having a look. One of the threads on there really got to me.

I suffered terrible depression following the birth of my first child and it really angers me to someone telling a depressive to basically pull themselves together and offering criticism not constructive help.

One lady on there has posted, she has an unsympathetic partner and an son she has difficult coping with and she suffers depression. The posts in reply beggar belief (if thats the right phrase!) and I cant understand why, now when we know so much more about depression, people (these being all women) can be so unsympathetic.

Sorry rant over but its a subject that I can empathise with and it really gets me to see someone treated like this!

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Davros · 27/02/2004 09:19

Good for you to have a rant here. Did you post something or were you too angry? What they've said is such an old fashioned attitude and very misinformed. I don't have experience of PND but I have been depressed when my son was diagnosed with autism and at times since then and it really is different to being a bit pissed off!

twiglett · 27/02/2004 09:20

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 09:22

I think I will PM her now and do just that! Its probably more of a sore spot with me because I have had depression and had a bellyful of people, including doctors telling me to pull myself together. However I had it some 9 years ago now and you would have thought we had moved forward a lot since then!

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Evita · 27/02/2004 09:54

What's the site called, or are you not allowed to say that here?

kiwisbird · 27/02/2004 10:20

I think you and I are here on Mumsnet from teh same site for the same reasons... Totally agree with you
xx J

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 10:56

Probably not allowed to say, let me just say the initials..R and a K..that doesnt make it to obvious does it..lol

You saw the topic as well kiwis bird?

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Hulababy · 27/02/2004 11:01

You are allowed to mention other sites on here if you want to BTW. It is just lots of other sites that don't allow it!

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 11:32

So would I be able to put a link to the topic so you can see on here?

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Hulababy · 27/02/2004 11:36

Yes. Well, it has been done before anyway.

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 11:39

LinkforSite

Hope this works!

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Hulababy · 27/02/2004 11:46

Well aren't they a nice bunch! I used to post there too but left after so many cases of 'advise' like that - never written forme but when just reading through other people's posts. It annoyed me so much. Infact it was because of one of those such cases I found MN. Another member advised the poster to leave and find a more supportive site - MN! So I tried it too. Mind that member was serverly dealt with on RK afterwards!!!

Galaxy · 27/02/2004 12:14

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 12:17

I put my hand up and admit Im not perfect and at times have probably been a little critical myself. What gets me is that recently someone was on the site telling how they beat their child with a belt and when I said what I thought of that I got jumped on! Obviously having depression and finding it difficult to cope with your child is much more of a bad thing and deserves lots of criticism than beating your child with a belt!

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dinosaur · 27/02/2004 12:18

did you see the poster who claims s/he subjects her/his son to two hours of military training for misbehaving?

I find that quite chilling...

Hulababy · 27/02/2004 12:19

I saw that - what on earth does she mean???

zebra · 27/02/2004 12:20

Agree with Galaxy & Hulababy. Never heard anything good about RK, tbh. That thread is definitely one for the sado-masichists.

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 12:21

That was actually a troll. There is someone on the board called monsty who is actually pretty rude and abrupt but because she is a long standing member not many actually say anything to her about it. I think another member joined as Monsty2 to basically take the P* out of her!

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Hulababy · 27/02/2004 12:24

Even so - no one picked her up on it, and objected to how she said treats her child. Instead they attck the originl poster who needs advise.

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 12:25

TBH I think its because everyone knows that the person posting is a troll so choose to ignore it. I must try and find the beating with a belt one to post for you to see!

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 12:28

BeltThread

Ok here it is. And if you notice from this thread the main people sticking up for the poster are the ones in the depression thread that are having a go at the poor woman!

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Beetroot · 27/02/2004 12:30

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Galaxy · 27/02/2004 12:51

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suedonim · 27/02/2004 13:19

Hmmm, lovely people....I don't think.

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3GirlsMum · 27/02/2004 13:46

Lol..Well done Galaxy, I wondered who on here that was. x

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