It gets me so mad Rant!

[3GirlsMum]

I have been trying to avoid another site I go on because its full of trolls and unsympathetic women but this morning made the mistake of having a look. One of the threads on there really got to me.

I suffered terrible depression following the birth of my first child and it really angers me to someone telling a depressive to basically pull themselves together and offering criticism not constructive help.

One lady on there has posted, she has an unsympathetic partner and an son she has difficult coping with and she suffers depression. The posts in reply beggar belief (if thats the right phrase!) and I cant understand why, now when we know so much more about depression, people (these being all women) can be so unsympathetic.

Sorry rant over but its a subject that I can empathise with and it really gets me to see someone treated like this!

I came here from RK having been haranged by a number of people- monsty in particular it must be said. I still pop back once a fortnight to catch up, (different name- my RK name having been taken, but annoyingly never seen post here) but have found mumsnet more friendly.

Having said that, I didn't see what was that bad in this thread- most of the posters were supportive & came up with suggestions- especially if she's been given a load of advice before but not taken it. She's clearly depressed though, and would be better off seeing someone.

She hasnt posted on the site for ages Tallulah and to be honest I thought that the posts to her were pretty abrupt and unsympathetic. If they couldnt offer her help and advice why post on it?

It was me who got jumped on when I tried to tell people on RK about MN (I posted as Suzannem, but the thread was deleted). 3GM - It was mainly you who I came up against However, I see that earlier in this thread you do say that you can be a bit critical yourself! I thought that you were really into RK in a big way? You seem to be a really respected member there, so why can't you say anything to the women who post harsh messages? I would have thought that you would be the perfect person to do it, or maybe your friend Izzy.

I totally agree with you that the thread was too harsh. What would Victoria do? Could she intervene?

Lol..Chinchilla you obviously havent been on RK for a while. I havent spoken to Yzzy in over a year! They are a lot of backstabbers and spoon stirrers on there and to be honest thats why I dont post on there so often any more. I try to sit back and not jump right in with threads I dont agree with now because at the end of the day we are all different and have our own opinions, however, the belt beating one on RK was just too much..!!!!

Having had depression yourself Chinchilla Im sure you understand why this recent thread really got to me. As for Victoria doing something, to be honest she doesnt really seem to be on there much at all and the cliquey set on there jump on all and sundry then are outraged when anyone says anything back to them.

Having said that there are also some really nice people on RK but they seem to be posting on there less and less as well. Not suprising really is it when you see those posts!

What a horrendous site. Hope not too many of the ghastly ones but only the nice ones needing help come here - it makes me proud to be a mumsnetter. The posts from fellow MNs should hopefully help that poor lady - she sounds like she has serious problems and has tried to get help, but there is no-one prepared to give it to her.
I've given up on almost all other sites due to this kind of backstabbing, at least I know where to come when I need a sympathetic ear (and you lot have been fab to me when I have been depressed).

I've just had a quick peek at that site (shudders). The insults look so bad in print. Perhaps I just caught a bad thread on on a bad day, I say hopefully. Agree with susanmt about not wanting some of the posters here on mumsnet.
susanmt, haven't caught up with you for a while but just wanted to say I'm really glad you're coming out of your depression.

Toni I hope you stay here, and keep posting. I must admit that I don't really go on RK, and haven't for ages. What happened with Yzzy? Weren't you a moderator on her site?

Thanks tigermoth! Dd2 is 3 months old today, and I did think sometimes I'd never make it this far, but I am here, and feeling like life is worth living.

Susanmt - that's good news.

Chinchilla I honestly much prefer this site. I have definitely decided to post here rather than RK, as has a friend of mine, and she has been a regular poster on here for quite some time now. The advice is generally better here anyway..lol!

I have no idea what goes on in Yzzys head. As far as I was concerned we were friends, I came back from holiday and she had gone all funny! I have no idea why and she never had the decency to explain so its been left at that!

There seems to be a little cliquey pack over there now but when newbies have joined and said as much they get jumped on. Great isnt it, you go there for help, advice and friendship and thats how you are welcomed!

I know that there is trolls on here sometimes, but believe me its not to the extent that you get on there and its just a joke at the moment! I wouldnt be surprised if people dont start leaving there in droves and joining here..lol!

Oh well...welcome! Their loss is our gain

I love, love Mumsnet. I think about Sb34, and Pie and Bunglie etc etc and I feel ridiculously proud of what it can offer people. I NEVER in all my life imagined a website could do what Mumsnet does.