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*Tamoxigang Christmas Party* - 45

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Tiny100 · 28/11/2013 10:58

Morning All!

We're nearly in December, so let's get the festivities started.

[adds mince pies to the trolley]

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Wren48 · 21/12/2013 23:04

Thanks all! Stockings filled and all asleep. Xmas Smile

BetsyBoop · 21/12/2013 23:11

Merry Christmas to Wren for tomorrow and good luck for the op :)

foofooyeah · 21/12/2013 23:21

wren happy Christmas for tomorrow and good luck for Monday.

Grin at marshy and her fooling her teenager

Big wave to everyone else as too tired to post more

reallyreallyworried · 22/12/2013 05:53

MERRY CHRISTMAS wren Xmas Smile hope you and your family have an amazing day xxxx

Good luck with your surgery xx

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I had a 'mixed' day yesterday. Few tears about my friend Sad first Christmas without her and with everything that's been going on. Plus working full time, I hadn't really given myself time to think about it. maybe that was intentional

So yesterday the realisation that she won't be celebrating Christmas with her boys, hit me! Along with the fact that this will be the first Christmas in over 20 years that I won't chat with her on Christmas day Sad

I went shopping yesterday and bought a 'special' candle which I will light on Christmas morning. But what I really want right now is to be able to hold her in my arms, and tell her how much she means to me, and how much I miss her.

So can I take this opportunity, to say God Bless all the precious angels who are not around to celebrate Christmas, in person with us this year. But that we will be thinking of them and wishing their families and loved ones all the best Wine

Hope it was okay to say that. Don't want to upset anyone. But needed to share xxxxxxxxx

GoodnessKnows · 22/12/2013 08:56

Hand holding, Really. That is really hard and very sad. Christmas is particularly hard without someone we love.

malteserzz · 22/12/2013 09:41

Really of course it's ok to say, I'm sorry you miss your friend the candle sounds a lovely idea
When are you off to your parents ?

Hope wren is having a good Christmas Day

Dh is doing the big Christmas shop this afternoon I am leaving all of the shopping and cooking to him this year I think he's quite excited about it !

GoodnessKnows · 22/12/2013 10:09

Pass the mince pies, Wren!

reallyreallyworried · 22/12/2013 10:20

Hi malt I hopefully travel home tomorrow at 2! Assuming hospital app runs to time!!

Just waved my work family off! Lots of hugs and kisses! Xmas Smile Children were so excited.

Now feeling a bit down! Need to try and keep busy, although I think tears are allowed after the year I've had. So I won't be too hard on myself!

Sounds like your DH has things in hand malt although I'm sure once he hits the supermarket he'll soon lose enthusiasm Xmas Wink but at least he'll know what you usually go through! Xx

malteserzz · 22/12/2013 10:41

Really if you want to cry then cry sometimes it makes you feel better afterwards rather than holding it in
Will be lovely for you to go home for Christmas Smile

Lilymaid · 22/12/2013 11:52

Hurrah - finally placed the Waitrose delivery order (coming tomorrow).
Both DSs will be at home together tonight - first time for about 1.5 years!
Also trying to be positive and banishing the horrible thoughts of is this the last time ...
Trying to negotiate a time when everyone will be in together so we can have a nice roast this evening.

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 12:34

MERRY CHRISTMAS Wren - hope you are having a lovely day. I think you definitly made the right decision. Best Wishes for your op tomorrow.

Trice - I hope you had a wonderful anniversary yesterday.

{{{Hugs}}} to Really and everyone else who is missing a loved one this Christmas.

Waving hello to everyone else and will catch up later. This thread is moving at great pace and my chemo befuddled brain is having trouble keeping up with it all. xx Hopefully the fog will pass soon. xx

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 12:53

It is always good to hear positive stories Ledkr. Good Luck with your pre Bailey's appointment tomorrow. I am due to have genetic testing in the NY. When my oncologist gets round to writting a letter to my GP and the GP refers me etc, etc.

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kitkat1967 · 22/12/2013 13:43

Happy Christams day to Wren - hope you are having a lovely time.

Our tree has just gone up Xmas Grin (as decorating now finished!!).

Marshy · 22/12/2013 15:23

Kitkat - have posted on the recon thread for you.

Happy Christmas to Wren and hi to everyone else.

Lily, must be lovely to have your ds's with you.

Hugs for really

I hope everyone has a happy time. It's a funny time of year isn't it, happy and sad both together. I'm missing my mum this year - first Christmas without her - but determined to have a nice time, because y'know life's just too bloody unpredictable, isn't it.

Comedy club was good last night and ds enjoyed it. I am off to a proper carol concert tonight to sing in the choir, and he isn't coming Grin

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 22/12/2013 15:45

wren hope you had a lovely Christmas today. My DCs would be jealous, Christmas can't come soon enough for them!
Good luck with your op tomorrow.

really hugs to you. Enjoy the time at home with your family.

I've chemo tomorrow afternoon, #4 AC, that will be halfway point for me. It's at 2pm, so hoping to do a M&S shop in the morning. Just for the veggie stuff.

I got a bonus week since they pushed it out a week. I felt totally well this week, with almost normal levels of energy. I got loads of things done, including good tidy up of kids bedrooms and toy room. Kids had sleepovers at home this weekend, while I've got this energy. And now those bedrooms & toy room are no longer tidy!

malteserzz · 22/12/2013 19:06

Lily I hope you're having a lovely evening with your ds's. I am the same with the worry that it could be the last Christmas but try not to dwell on it

Mom good luck with both the m and s shop and the chemo tomorrow

Kitkat glad you have your tree up now

Dh and dd did a great job with the food shop lots of yummy stuff in the cupboards and fridge now. We all watched the nativity and the snowman today just wish it was a normal Christmas without bloody cancer being here too

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 20:24

Mom - I didn't realise you and I were chemo buddies! I did my 4th round of EC on Thursday and am now halfway through too. Hope all goes well for you tomorrow and the Xmas steroids spirit gives you a lift for the big day. Do you hit the Tax in the NY too?

Lily and Malt - so glad it is not just me thinking the unthinkable. Malt - how did your op go? Do you have your results soon?

Enjoying singing tonight Marshy - that little kitten of yours seems like it is doing his/her job of keeping your spirits up.

I will have to start taking a look at the surgery splinter group. Have an appointment with my consultant on the 27th, not sure what about as chemo is on-going till March, perhaps he just wants to wish me a Happy New Year Grin

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MomOfTwoGirls2 · 22/12/2013 21:33

tiny nice to have a chemo buddy! Yes, I'll start Tax in Jan, and finish mid march, if no more delays. Ha ha, never though of the effect of the steroids on Xmas day.

I'm having a few glasses of red wine tonight, as taste buds will be off for at least a week. Hopefully I'll manage some bubbly for New Year's Eve. That is just over a week away. Yikes!!

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 22:04

Clink, clink Mom WineWine enjoy it while you can!

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 22:07

Meant to ask, what is next for you after the chemo? (Apart from a nice long holiday!)

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MomOfTwoGirls2 · 22/12/2013 22:16

Radiotherapy, around 5 weeks. Then Tamoxifen for 5 years.

Well, maybe not. I will do genetic testing in new year. There is very high chance that I will be BRCA. If so, then I'll opt for double mc, and get my ovaries out.

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 22/12/2013 22:17

forgot to add, I had lumpectomy in Sept. So unless I'm BRCA, my surgery is behind me.

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 22:21

The next for me is surgery then rads.

I am also going for genetic testing in the NY, although Onc has told I am unlikely to have the BRCA gene. (I am eligible due to my age 40< and that I have TNBC.)

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Tiny100 · 22/12/2013 22:23

Fingers crossed surgery is behind you Mom.

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trice · 22/12/2013 23:06

I am very excited about going to the panto tomorrow, I get to embarrass my kids by being over enthusiastic. It is part of our Christmas tradition and I always really enjoy it. Other adults think I am mad. They are probably right.

Really and Malt, I cry all the time, it would be weird if I didn't. But I am also trying to enjoy the life that I have rather than regretting not having the life I planned. I try. I don't alway succeed!

I had genetic testing which showed nothing. I was pleased for my sister and Dd but I kind of wanted to find a reason for my disease. Not a logical position I know but I wanted to find the smoking gun if you know what I mean.