*Tamoxigang Christmas Party* - 45

[Tiny100]

Morning All!

We're nearly in December, so let's get the festivities started.

[adds mince pies to the trolley]

Yes malt I had hidden the thread (so all my own fault) and it took a while to work out how to un-hide it.

I have recorded Gogglebox tonight but my favorites are the 'posh couple'.

Marshy, how's things (the boob )?
Kitkat, I also managed to hide this thread (lifeline) the other day. Think the hide button is sometimes positioned where the Flip button is.
Wow to not crying at nativity play thingy.
I can only remember the name of the person whose comment I've read last. But I remember the comments - so please apply as relevant:
Yup. I do feel like a celebrity - or at least a celebrity 's relative. I've gone from (secretary saying): " oh I couldn't possibly know / there are no notes to say whether anything is wrong, he'd just like to see you before Xmas." To, "Ah yes, I do know who you are.". Makes it easier as I'm not known for my tolerance / patience (ask my DH). Lol
I saw a few Bloody Useless people yesterday but the people actually doing important stuff to me were good.
The BU included : member of consultant's team who:
Tried to talk to me from behind so that I'd have to twist my entire body round to speak to him. Derr
Forgot to discharge me
Forgot to remove pad things from my arms once discharged.
Just moaning cos I'm DEPENDENT on these people. Like reeeeeally dependent.
Oh, and the person (consultant) who hadn't told them it was to be done under general anaesthetic. Big deal to me!
There's no way my shivering body could've laid still to have a biopsy on my back. I was so scared ( before going under ) that I was literally shivering, teeth chattering.
What an old moany-boots I am!
Now, The Wait. Apparently 7-10 days. Then there's Xmas. BUT, despite being impatient. (See above), if I hear before then, it'll be BAD news. And I need to know about the nerve path stuff.
Basically , I don't neeeeedd to know anything, do I ! It's not in MY hands. I have to let go of bloody control (v v v v v v hard) as whatever it is, I'll be told what they'll do , when, how, where, recovery , etc.
I think I trust the main guy but want a second opinion. But I've no information to take to anyone. So I sit and wait. Thank GD for Xmas. A merry distraction - most of the time.

Please excuse my really superficial moan here, but ... the internet doesn't work in hospital!!!! How am I supposed to use mumsnet while 'on holiday' there? What's the point of having private insurance if... I jest. But seriously, hope I'm not in too long and can keep Mumsnetting as my lifeline.

Goodness that isn't superficial at all!

Have you got an iPad or tablet? If so it's possible to tether your iPad to phone so have net access. Also you will appreciate the private room you get with health insurance as will be better to relax.

Bad things about spinal ops: they will terrify you with what can go wrong when consent you , it will be scary waking up in icu as may have breathing tube in(which hurts your throat), as it will be longer op you will have anaesthetic hangover and will feel like can't move as anaesthetic makes muscles slow to move. They may have to put clips in if worried spine unstable cos of tumour.

Good news: spinal surgeons have lots of tech and skill- hey do this all the time so risks will be kept to minimum (if they can help me they can help you - my neck was pretty knackered but it worked), physio and nurses will get you moving again quickly and pain relief will help ( but actually after initial op , pain goes quickly). Clips are fine (may be bit stiff ) and don't set off airport scanners.

I like posh couple on gogglebix but also Brixton ladies.

Wow
Lots of info
Waking up in Intensive scare (lol - typo but soooo appropriate I'm laughing out loud)!!!!!!!!
Scares me shitless.
Still laughing at typo though
Tubes, hand things, chest straps, sounds like torture. Torture enough not to go n get my usual cup of options when I like, let alone being strapped down, drugged n operated on, having to get up after, etc.
yikes
(Cries in corner seriously scared).
Have told my DS (6 ) that I have a lump into back that is like the yukky lumps in the soup I make. He agrees that it's not nice and I should get it out - sort of. Told me it wS normal, everyone has one and it's cos I'm still growing, at first. Bless.

My iphone was receiving email but not MN.

Lol at 6 year old. Intensive scare less scary than you think. Main difference between that and normal recovery is you have nurse dedicated to looking after you rather than one between a few of you.

Also tubes start coming out as soon as you come round. They take breathing tube out ( but they may do that anyway as I only had one left in for neck op- never had it for other ops still in). The only other line is cannula for fluids and sometimes an arterial line but that usually comes out ASAP after come Round (and may Be out already or not needed as I think it depends on the op).

Hi all! No actual vomiting chez Barra after cycle 3. The stupid amounts of anti emetics must be doing the trick.
Currently in bed with a snoring/feeding wee-est barra (four months tomorrow) as I have finally relinquished control (see *Goodness, not just you) and allowed kind friends to do the school run.

Aha. Less scary. Hmmm. Alright I'll believe you as you've been there n done it and I'm just imagining it ;)

Beamur, my mum (80) had a mastectomy last year. She doesn't have dementia, but she was much more confused than usual for a fair amount of time (a few months?) after the operation and general anaesthetic. We just reckoned that she was very knocked back by it all, and things have improved for her since. It might be worth giving your mum a little time to bounce back. The operation is a really big deal and it sounds as though she's had a lot extra to deal with through the infections. Good luck.

Tiny, great news! A real pre Christmas treat.

Sorry, I hadn't realised I wasn't in the last page so didn't respond to any of the latest.

Glad that you're being taken seriously, Goodness, even if there are some BUs on the team.

Sorry tiny missed your news last night-am so pleased its good news even if shoulder still a mystery.

Hope you are still snuggled up wee-glad you are letting others take the strain.

Waiting on my mother -she wants to take big gig to build a bear as Xmas treat and I have to come. It's going to be horrendous isn't if?

Thank you for welcoming me. I realise I need to find out more, not least of all in order to answer my 9 year old's many questions. I assume I will have chemo daily for a week but I have no idea how that daily dose will make me feel.

According the email I've just got from the hospital I will be on a course of chemo called 'DA' which is a combination of two agents - cytarabine and daunorubicin. I will need to be in hospital as it apparently causes bone marrow suppression and low blood counts.

I'm worried about the effect it will have on ds if he cannot visit me. London hospital said he could visit but local hospital said he can't. I wouldn't want to choose an option that meant I couldn't physically see ds for 3 weeks

Both hospitals have wifi thank heavens.

Hope you are not suffering too much in build a bear gigs !

Pickle that would be tough not seeing ds for 3 weeks though bet it will go quicker than you think

I have my date to get the results from my node clearance, just before new year so at least I can enjoy Christmas 1st

Gig, how was Build a Bear. Get sucked into 'accessorising'? Lol

Sadly yes- I am traumatised ( although it was grandmas gift to big gig). It's a pretty pony complete with sound effects , stink smell and outfit..

I didn't know they did smells !

Smells? Horse manure? Lolling
Question ladies , what do I say to those who ask at husband's work Xmas family do tomorrow? No idea what to say to questions as simple as 'how are you?' 'What you been up to?' 'What are your plans for Xmas?' There's only one topic on my mind.

Goodness Id just keep it vague you don't have to tell them and especially not at a social do. Might be nice for you to have an evening just being yourself if you know what I mean

Say nothing or be vague as malt said.

At horse manure- think big gig went for popcorn but it was sickly stuff like bubble gum, cupcake etc

Being vague works! I had a night out just after diagnosis with some people who "knew" and some who didn't and it was really nice to be me, rather than me with the cancer!
Gigs -lovely time at build a bear then. my boys have never shown an interest so hopefully wee-est barra won't either!

Vague it is then. Have a nice dress to wear. Hair straightened. Make up ready n off I'll go ;) May even convince DH to let us mooch around Hamleys for an hour.
At first, I really didn't get the 'pass the tea n cake' stuff. Now I'm kinda getting it.

Hmmm looks like the old insomnia might be back!

Just popping in to catch up on news. Nothing new to report from me.

I watched goggle box for the first time tonight and found it very funny. Like posh couple and Brixton ladies too, but also the siddiques: the man with his 2 sons. And the older couple in the floral armchairs.

I'm awake every night from either 2 or 4 am. Then tired again at 6... when my DD wakes up!
What's this program everyone's talking about, Googlebox? Feel like in missing out. Lol

Gogglebox is on channel 4 it'll be on catch up if you have that. I love the posh couple with their extensive drinks cabinet and Leon and June who are the older couple. She's always rolling her eyes at him!

Feel sad today, it's the end if term here and everyone's so happy and looking forward to Christmas. I'm so jealous and that's not nice is it ?