totally heartbroken. lost my baby now need to make a decision on how to misscarry.

[sarah115]

I had been bleeding on and of for a few weeks and tryed not to over react. Got a scan early on and eptopic pregnancy was ruled out. So was very happy. Ended up getting another scan weeks later and was told they could not find a heartbeat so my baby had died. I now need to decide what I want to do next. Im heartbroken and feel so empty. Any advice or shared experiences would be good.

Sarah, if you feel that the pains you have been having today might be something starting, you might want to get to hand the things you will want to have just in case it comes before the erpc. Thick pads, (pref with wings), painkillers (you can take paracetamol and aspirin together, as long as you don't exceed the stated dose of either of them), dark towel to sit on/in bed in case the bleeding is heavy, leggins or something like that to make you feel secure and maybe things to distract you like a box set dvd and of course chocolate.

It might not come to you needing any of this, or you might have a less physically hard time of it than some, but I'm just writing it as I had to stagger out to the supermarket to get more pads in the middle of heavy bleeding and it was very very unpleasant and I wish someone had of suggested it to me first.

If you report your thread (just click on any of your comments opposite where it says your name) you could ask mumsnet to move this to the miscarriage section, there are a lot of lovely women there who can advise you.

Thank you Armadale I will get myself prepared just incase. I can only hope its not to painful. I had a look on that bit of mumsnet and read some of the comments as there is loads. So much to take in.

A long time ago, the 3 month scan showed an empty sac - my Consultant saw me the next day and recommended a D&C under GA as the best option physically and psychologically for me and booked me in for the next day.

The staff at the Day Stay Unit were all really kind and clued in to the fact that I was dealing with the shock/disappointment of the loss. It was a good experience and I woke up in recovery with my husband at my side....we ate tea and toast together in the hospital garden afterwards on a beautiful day - they discharged us and it all seemed more hopeful...I actually didn't try again for 4 years but have since had 2 kids without further complications.

Waiting to miscarry would be more stressful I would have thought. If you have an issue with the i/v for the GA, they could probably put EMLA cream on beforehand like they do with kids so that you don't even feel 'the tiny scratch'. Going off to sleep is amazing....10,9,8....asleep.

So sorry for your loss

I've no useful advice, I'm afraid.