I had a baby nine months ago and I have been in pain every day since and it is starting to really impact my physical and mental health. I had quite a difficult birth and second degree tears and had a lot of vaginal pain after the birth. I thought it was normally after stitches and was told I was healing well. I also got a UTI the week after DS was born which took ages and three rounds of anti bio to go. My bladder has never felt right since and I often have the urge to wee without actually needing to.
I made repeated visits to the GP in the early days to be told it was all in my head and that it was anxiety causing all of my problems. I was prescribed anti depressants which I took although I knew I wasn't depressed just in pain and overwhelmed by the stress of looking after my beautiful baby whilst being unable to move, walk or sit without pain. I thought this was just what happened after childbirth so I tried to cope as best I could. The past nine months have been so so difficult and I am trying to remain positive but I can feel myself starting to give up.
I was finally referred to an NHS consultant who keep me waiting in a corridor in tears before diagnosing me with vulvodynia- this was without a proper examination. I had a Fenton's procedure which has not made any difference. I paid to see a private gynae who was thorough and said I have nerve damage due to thick scar tissue which is affecting the nerves that control the bladder. I am sorry if I am rambling- it hasn't been a good day. I have a wonderful DP and a beautiful baby but I feel utterly traumatised by the pain and the hopelessness of trying to get someone to listen to me. I feel like I can't do it anymore. Its either pain every day or panic that the pain is coming. I am sorry it was so long.