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HerNextDoorAt21 · 09/04/2013 08:43

Everything crossed gigs

HerNextDoorAt21 · 09/04/2013 08:56

Yes gigs we have an eclectic mix of extra, metro,express tescos fitted everywhere here

Gracie, glad your first day back was ok

As for me, I went to
Occupational Health yesterday trying yo get myself phased back into
Work. I was told to go away for at least 5 weeks and stop being crazy ! That was me told then .... So at least five more weeks of coffee mmornings at topsys house !

Current at hospital waiting for change of drains .... Still not snowing ffin from about 80ml of yuk a day :(

topsyturner · 09/04/2013 08:57

Ooh Gigs , hoping you are being Bionicled right now !
Not jealous about Carluccios , at all ...

First day in 2 weeks that I've had my house to myself .
Both DC finally back to school .
DH at work .
Just me and pig/dog .
May have to re don my Pith Helmet and venture back into DS bedroom though , still a work in progress !

Hope everyone is having a good day
And if anyone happens to be going anywhere near that Artisan Bread Shop , can you pick me up a small snackerell ...

Copthallresident · 09/04/2013 09:58

Italian croissanti and Nutella pains di raisin thingios (masterly translation of French into Italian) for the breakfast trolley, not sure about the latter so some ciabatta too . Just the thing after two days nil by mouth on and off. I hope , absolutely everything crossed , that gigs has stage 1 bionicalling over with next we here from her

Gigondas · 09/04/2013 09:59

Don't talk about snackerels as am nil by mouth.

Just seen consultant and been consented so fingers crossed on later. Bad news is may be in here til Friday so weekend Tesco trip on hold cos of that.

The mini gigs driving dh slowly mad (he is off with them as meant to be on holiday) so I think not much rest for him.

Hnd - that is good you are not rushing back.

Good luck topsy with the room clear- shall we send a search party if we don't hear from you?

Gigondas · 09/04/2013 10:08

This made me laugh don't mention maggie

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 10:20

Fingers crossed for today Gigs, - but grr about trip to Tesco.
Love 'Don't Mention Maggie' - made me laugh too

gracie - well done for return to work, sounds as if the day went well.

HND - very wise not to rush back I think, - obviously it will be a dreadful bind having to see more of topsy, but you can always come on here and moan about her

So far this morning I have managed to stab myself in the finger with a stanley knife (accidentally - it wasn't a cry for help! )

DH is being an arse of the first order at the moment, am finding him very hard to cope with

jchocchip · 09/04/2013 10:33

Pops on briefly to kiss kk s finger better. Step away from the stanley knife, here are some nice blunt ended scissors...
:( about dh being an arse. Waiting for news from gig hanging around nbm is no fun.
Got to get back to assignment!

Gigondas · 09/04/2013 10:43

Offers kurri some extra hospital duct tape for finger and to put round dh.
You lot are mean talking about food and drink .

Wonder when smee is back from toucan ville.

Figgyroll · 09/04/2013 11:08

Hello lovely ladies, I've been AWOL for a long time but have a read every now and then to see how you're all doing and just wanted to wish Gigs a successful op this morning.

MAS, I said hello to Walberswick for you last week - lovely place. I think I've fallen in love with Suffolk, so many beautiful places to see.

Everything in the Figgy household is ticketyboo at the moment - hubby celebrating his 60th tomorrow, DS1 and his lovely girlfriend saving madly for their first house and DS2 just been offered another year at college. I have my checkup next week with consultant and will talk to him about elective MX of remaining boob for lots of reasons, the main one being fear of recurrence.

It's interesting reading about ovary removal. I'm on Letrozole and no periods at all but was wondering how they know the Letrozole is working - I've had no blood tests to measure oestrogen levels. Anyone know?

topsyturner · 09/04/2013 11:08

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 11:11

jchoc - I think blunt ended scissors are about my level thanks for duct tape Gigs

Gigondas · 09/04/2013 11:32

Likely will be last thing (5ish?) so will be put in recovery ward overnight. My mum on her way in with mags to read.

[takes ducted up kurri dh and swaps him for ken masters for kurri ]

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 11:37

OOh Ken

Are they starving you until five then?
It will be nice to see your Mum (and her mags )

Copthallresident · 09/04/2013 11:38

Oh sorry gigs was hoping you were first thing, takes trolley away so we can all be nil by mouth in sympathy.................

at Thatcher article although whatever you think of Thatcher she has done little Copt a favour timing her demise as she is revising her for History AS (it is history now ) I keep chucking her fantastic quotes! Been some good cock ups too, CNN printed a picture under their announcement of her with Jimmy Saville, and BBC announced she died of a strike ...........

Although can I just say I was actually handbagged, worked on a big project for over a year, involved banks, solicitors, Mc Kinseys, it was all going ahead. All the Mandarins in Whitehall (who really did wear old macs) and the Industry Secretary Peter Lilley had agreed it and a final presentation to Her Blueness was supposed to be a formality, and she stood up at the end and said No! and that was that! It was probably my poodle perm that undermined the whole business case...........

KK Hand holding for being wound up by DH. Mine also being a complete dick at the moment. Decided he wanted a new bathroom, with new fancy shower, instructed the man who has been doing all the repairs around our house to strip of all the tiles yesterday (great for girls revision), all the plaster has come off with them, and now says he hasn't time to look at showers etc. though had time to get ambushed by alcoholic friend on Friday night so too hungover all weekend to go out. So I am supposed to divine what it is he wants, and turn into a bathroom designer and try to get excited about taps. I liked the old bathroom ................ Really cross as loads to do in the garden now we have stopped being Iceland, and he will do FA to help there as well What is yours up to?

Wonder if smee is here www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Hotel_Review-g150812-d214254-Reviews-Iberostar_Tucan_Hotel-Playa_del_Carmen_Yucatan_Peninsula.html

Copthallresident · 09/04/2013 11:40

Wish we were all there.....

Gigondas · 09/04/2013 11:48

That makes me feel very old but it was 30 years ago! Love the poodle perm story tho copthall.

Grr de DIY issues- bathrooms complete faff to as always take longer than you think. Think we had stuff from hans grohl which is pricy but nice (still looks new despite nearly 5 years of hammering from the gigs).

Trying to use peace to do some Ou reading (hopes jchoc doing ok). What did we do before books and internet?

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 12:04

Copt - my Dh has asperger's - and with it a rather obsessive personality, -his current obsession is a computer game (one of those that you play with other people round the world/internetland) with points and elves and weapons etc . Anyhoo - I don't mind him playing it if he enjoys it, but it is ALL the time now, - he gets up at 5am and comes to bed at about 2am in order to play more. He is to my mind blatantly addicted.

If you interrupt his gaming, he gets antsy and aggro (verbally) and accuses me of being the one who is difficult. Last night I asked him if he could photograph something for me, and he stomped through (I hadn't even said 'right now') yanked stuff about and when I told him to stop, he said 'what's wrong with you have you got high blood pressure or something?' - making out his faults are due to me being 'unwell' is one of his tricks.

He also accused me of 'monopolising' the conversation when we are with DS and he can't get a word in edgeways. Also since he constantly interrupts and shouts his views anyway.

And breathe, he is really OK. but this game is affecting him and he can't see it. I make allowances, but just because he has asperger's doesn't mean he can't also just be a dick sometimes

Loving the handbagging story.
Sorry your DH also being dickish what gets into them?

Look at the lovely pool in that link ,

Meant to say yesterday well done on your assignment Gigs. Hope you can get some reading done while you are waiting today - always very satisfactory when you can get through some studying.

Copthallresident · 09/04/2013 12:41

KK That is frustrating, and difficult, those games are addictive, going to bed at 2 and getting up at 5 is most definitely an addiction. Is it something where he will get to the top level or whatever and it will lose it's fascination? Or is there someone else he respects who can help you point it out.

DH also prone to saying it is me, just opened the conversation with "Don't blame me because you haven't slept" as if he is being totally reasonable.

I can understand it is very difficult to know where to stop making allowances and start to defend your own well being and sanity. I have the same issue with my bipolar friend but as everyone tells me , you have to look after yourself too, easier said than done I know.

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 13:17

Copt - there seem to be infinite levels - he said at Christmas he was going to get to level 40 then stop - obviously he has gone way past that now.
He makes out that if I ask him to cut it down, I am taking away his main enjoyment in life (his argument 'I don't stop you seeing your friends' ) but I'd be quite happy for him to play it within reasonable boundaries.

Unfortunately a lot of the people he works with (all scientists), who's opinion he might respect, See nothing wrong with that sort of behaviour.
WE do have one lovely friend who Dh respects very much - looks on him almost as a father figure, and I may chat to him about it next time we meet up, but don't want to bother him really because he has a lot of health anxieties in his family atm.

he does not accept he is addicted to it. And claims that it could be far worse addiction - drugs/ alcohol etc. - which is true but irrelevant. He did get hooked on online gambling a few years back - DS read him the riot act over that and he stopped it.

It is true - I find myself in the position of defending my sanity, - and actually he has managed to deflect the conversation form the matter in hand by suggesting I'm bonkers

hey ho - it is hard at times, - at other times he is a lovely chap, and if I can get him out into the garden or on a walk, he seems to relax and enjoy it. I think the game winds him up as much as it does me!

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MaryAnnSingleton · 09/04/2013 14:05

kk it must be very hard - wish I could say something constructive to help.
I clean my bathroom a lot as I want it to stay as shiny and new as it was about 5 years ago when it was put in - I love it ! The old bathroom did have a very sweet cast iron bath with feet but it was very narrow and in the middle of the room,so not v practical. It's now in our garden filled with plants
I can offer artisan cheese scones from the market and some chocolate cookies for the trolley. (save some for Gig's apres op snack)

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Copthallresident · 09/04/2013 14:38

If he promised he would stop at level 40 then he has accepted there is an issue? and intellectually he surely can see that a. you can be addicted to computer games and b if you can be addicted then the patterns of behaviour he is exhibiting make him an addict. He is only right that this is not as bad as alcohol in that it is not harming his liver but in the sense that it is having an effect on his family relationships then it seems comparable (3 hours sleep can't be doing him any good either) . He is irritable, it is making you unhappy. However you probably need someone else to point that out. However remember that it is him, you are not bonkers or even annoying, sometimes you can get worn down and lose a sense of perspective in these situations.

Yes DH can be lovely too, fun and funny, but he works too hard and ridiculously long hours and we see that too rarely...........I think work is a sort of addiction too. He is being conciliatory now and man doing bathroom and I have plotted a way to fit it all in and I am now looking at Grohl taps and trying to raise some interest . Still we are off to Tesco's Barcelona branch on Friday for a long weekend, so hopefully a bit of quality time......... Looking forward to blitzing the world foods Spanish section and the Wine Department

What a pain gigs that your Tesco outing is off, can it be fitted in before next stage of Bionicalling? Hope you are enjoying your OU stuff.

Copthallresident · 09/04/2013 14:46

MAS Yes I did think of using the bath in the garden but what with the alpine garden in the rusty wheelbarrow full of and surrounded by old pots, and the trunk of the pear we had to have cut down and the old roller I think I am on the verge of going over the top, and a bit too Bob Flowerdew, on recycled garden features

Part of this is that the bathroom being taken out is the one we put in 15 years ago so lots of memories.............. but the shower is rubbish......

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 14:53

Thank you all for kind words - I feel guilty moaning about him, because it feels sort of disloyal, but actually need to get it off my chest.

I feel as if he is choosing a game over his relationship and I find that incredibly hard to understand because for me that would be a no brainer. But I don't have an addiction and I don't know what it feels like.

I think part of the problem (and this might be common to all of us on here) is that I have a strong sense of liiving for the moment, and doing things together because you don't know what is round the corner. And that makes me resentful of the fact that he doesn't want to do anything except play this game.

Enough though - I don't want to bore you all to death!

I am very of your trip to Barcelona Tesco, - would love to go there, Barcelona is on my list of 'places I'm going when my inheritance comes through'
I'm glad your DH is getting on with the bathroom now, even if it is man-decorating

MAS - my mum has one of those baths with cast iron feet - I think it might even be the original Victorian one from when the house was built. It was always very cold - even the hot water didn't warm the metal

I have yogurt cake for the trolley (I made it from a recipe in the recipe section on here and it is yummy) and only takes about five mins to make (not including cooking obv.)

amberlight · 09/04/2013 15:21

KK, he's being an arse. Does that help? There's no way I would be that rude to people. Ever. And I'm on the severe side of autism. And I get obsessed with things. But being in relationship is not about grabbing everything for ourselves. DH has his hobbies and interests. I have mine. At the point where it's taking over life, it's got to stop. YANBU on that, to quote an MN phrase.