Fuckity fuck. Test results back. Herpes. Please someone help!

[FreckledLeopard]

So, as well as going through a divorce, having H move out, having friend move in, finding out that I will be jobless from September and not knowing what secondary school DD is going to be going to because I don't know if I'll have a job or where future job may be, I have just been called with test results from STI test last week and I have herpes.

Had some weird, small, painful spots/lesions on labia, went to clinic, they swabbed, it's herpes. Am not in a position to be able to find out much more right now as can't call and grill doctors as am at work. I don't know how I have it. Not sure if it's from a cold sore and oral sex in the past, whether it's lay dormant in my system for years and then sprung up owing to huge stress now or what. I feel so tainted and ashamed. Also mortified by the thought of having to disclose this to future sexual partners. Worried about any future pregnancies I may have. Overall, totally, totally gutted.

Symptoms themselves are fairly mild and spots almost gone. But how often does it recur? Is it always milder in subsequent episodes?

Someone please come and reassure me!

[AuntFini]

I've got it as well, got it from DP from dormant coldsore. Don't worry, it's not a big deal- I think people who don't have it are more bothered than those of us that do. Nobody is ashamed of a coldsore!

Also you'd be surprised how many people have it.