Cocaine and alcohol addictions

[Littleblue]

Can anyone give me some advice.. I have a friend who is in freefall with both.. tried to go cold turkey and did loads of exercise etc..for five days.. then last night he downed a bottle of whisky , speed , wine and is still drinking..having driven to work.
He is resistant to seeing a Gp.. can anyone make any suggestions? I don't think sudden withdrawals a good idea..he is behaving very erratically..

I can relate to that.. my older kids..both adults , have expressed concern I drink too much..my son himself drinks heavily socially..but reigns in , if anything , watching me..and his gran lean on drink..and knowing it killed his grandfather has trained him to fear it..as you do.Hope so anyway.
I used to Mumsnet alot... indeed mumsnet taught me that I was living with a violent man..and steered me to the resources i needed to get free safely..I think I need to make it more of a habit again..in my rl I get leant on heavily by family..and some friends..because although it probably sounds like nonsense..i'm actually a very pragmatic and level headed person generally..I have been to hell and back a few times in my life..

Ive bailed...had to..crying my bloody heart out..

told him to come back to me clean...god it hurts

thought you might say that.. ty

Love the swan analogy...am nicking that :-) x

Well done Blue!!! So, so hard...just remember, every time you feel the ache, or the pull to email/phone, you are helping the man you care about. You really, really are.

I did not get clean until I was minus boyfriend: as long as he was around, I could use him as an excuse in my muddled, ill brain - regardless of what he or anyone else said. Being alone was scary but I owe it my life. You have done a good, good thing.

You have also done a good, good thing for yourself and your children. What a great example of strength! Do take good care of yourself, find things to do that are distracting and comforting....treat yourself like a bereaved person for a bit. The future will take care of itself....

He's replied.. and agree's with me wholeheartedly... like you said..the future will take care of itself...
Ive picked up some of the stuff I have been avoiding dealing with..am heavily in debt , and will focus on fixing my own life..and just be thank you x

Maryz, I was a heroin addict with coke thrown in, for a good part of my 20s.
It's over 20 years since I gave up, I have a son who at 16 knows the score about drugs, but I still worry he will try them.
As for me, I have absolutely no desire to try anything again, even if someone stuck it in front of my nose.
Drug addiction causes nothing but misery, and hopefully your son will get to the point where he realise that too.
People do get off them, please don't give up hope.

Thats encouraging... for me too...thank you :)

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Hello Mary I so know how that feels..I spent months knowing my son was out of control at Uni.. everytime I turned in my road I expected to see a police car.. ..but hes fine now..he got there..have hope x

Oh..and I'm ok thanks... been a positive day

..onwards and sideways Mary eh x

miss him ... (yeah I know)

You're doing great, Blue. Keep going - eyes forwards. But its ok to grieve ((()))

Feel like i cut my own arm off... sighs thanx x

Yes, I bet.

But you haven't, you've actually done all you can to free both your - and hopefully his - arms to swim and survive. Hang in there, hats off to your strength.

would be nice if life was a mite easier at times :-) thanks