katie - I have not condemned you as a heartless bitch - please don't put words into my mouth (
- ironic).
you did ask, in your post, what woudl happen if everyone stopped vaccinating - a suggestion that rarely comes from the so-called anti-vax side of the argument. why ask this? other than to get people thinking and agreeing with you that of course vaccines are good, and people should queue up and have them.
the "danger" comment of mine was not specifically aimed at you - it was just a general counter to all the "omg! how can you walk around in public with your ticking timebomb of a child who has not been vaccinated" posts.
non-vaccination is rarely taken lightly, ime. it isn't somethig that the majority of reasonable parents drift into. it is a decision agonised over - and revisited time and again.
accepting that collateral damage is "for the good of society" os not somehting I can do. I could take just as much offence at your opinion that it is (especially since I am living that life and you, I suspect, are not)
I agree with you that it is a difficult area. more choice for parents, and availability of singles (for all vaccines, not just MMR) woudl help a little. as would not being dismissed as a loon, or patronised (talking in general). and es research to identify what is going on - proper research, which actually looks at the issues, not touchy-feely research which champions all big pharma as the saviours of public health.
and an acceptance that sometimes people have perfectly good resons not to vaccinate, along with looking at the actual figures, and accepting that it is as likely that the person spreading mumps around is a mid-20 something mother whose MMR has worn off as it is the unvaccinated child a the toddler group.
knowledge of all the facts woudl be good, not just scaremongeing about unvaccinated children (again, talking in general)