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DD upset when she Google searches her name - what can we do?

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IceskaterTwirl · 22/02/2023 07:02

When my DD was much younger (like 2), she was diagnosed with autism. DH and I, with the very best of intentions, got involved with a local autism charity and did various fundraising events, some of which were reported in the local press/TV. We were seeking to destigmitize autism (how naive) and readily agreed to speak about DD being diagnosed with the disability. We were, sincerely, trying to help other parents come to terms with an autism diagnosis!

Fast forward 15 years and, if DD has autism, no one would know. She was quite possibly misdiagnosed as her diagnosis was when she was under 3 years old. She is now in Y13 and heading for at a top RG to do STEM.

When she Googles her name, autism comes up. She is very upset about this and I totally understand why. She rightly observes that future BFs, employers etc will have preconceptions about her and, as I say, she was probably misdiagnosed.

DH and I feel awful that we have put her in this position. Is there anything we can do to remove old news articles from the internet/social media?

HopeMumsnet · 22/02/2023 10:48

Hi all,
Apologies for it having taken time for us to respond to reports about this thread, we wanted to go through it with a fine toothcomb. As you can see, we have removed several posts and will be having words with several posters.

First and foremost, while we can never guarantee 100% that someone is genuine, this poster has been with us for many years and has a decent posting history with us so insofar as we'd vouch for anyone, we would do so for her.

We'd also like to say that we're surprised at how this particular thread has gone. We do understand there are sensitivities when it comes to matters of our children and SN, of course there are, but that must work in both directions and good faith should be the starting point for any discussion on Mumsnet.

Despite the perception in some quarters that there is a cohort on MN who make a point of deriding those with autism diagnoses we'd really like it to be noted that we do not see evidence of it.

Further, if the line 'if you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism' has any validity then surely the fact that one parental experience is somewhat different to another can't be used as evidence of wrongdoing? Particularly not with services being so locally variable, and with finances also frequently being a factor in accessing assistance.

Mumsnet is a site primarily for peer support, and we have systems in place for those instances when one user suspects another of being dishonest. We would ask in future that our members use them rather than mount an attack on the boards, and we are grateful to those who did report.

We'd like to reiterate that we have no reason to suspect that this OP is being dishonest, and that we would take steps if we thought so.

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