Year 12 (4): The one where they're pondering what to do next

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Let's try this

Ironoaks College actively discourage any parental involvement, however I forced a meeting in July after her internal exam results. They told her that usually they would not allow students to continue with those results, however they threw her a lifeline and gave her a second chance, she will have to sit tests when she returns in September and depending on the results of those will determine whether she is to continue. Of course during the summer holidays she has received her AS level result. And to also add into the mix, she was diagnosed with autism in July!

Fed up with being the big bad wolf. I do believe in her, just trying to be realistic

Sandwiches I would let her retake and see what happens. The conversation that follows should include the lead on SEN at the college - it may be that now they have the diagnosis and with the right support she can pull the grades up but it may also be that the retakes show the exam format - or the subjects she's taken - are just wrong for her. It sounds like the college is hoping she'll see that when she retakes the internal exam but I suspect they'll push her to drop the AS subject in any case.

I think her retaking would be the best option for her, maybe changing one or more of her subjects too. I've also suggested an apprenticeship or BTECs. She will not listen to me though, and just throws back at me that I don't believe in her. I'm feeling extra sensitive about it today as found out last night that mother-in-law has been talking to her daughter (my sister-in-law), about DD. Has really upset me.... Sister-in-law's sons are both very academic. her eldest son had interview at Oxford, graduated with a masters degree, turned down the opportunity to do a PhD and youngest son will be starting a masters next year....

I would suggest waiting to see how the September exams go. My DS was at DUU (D in Maths AS as it was still the old system for Maths). In September he got DDE and ended up with CCC and got into his BBB Uni offer! My DS also has a special need diagnosed late on. Does your daughter get extra time, does she have problems interpreting questions? Have you thought about getting a tutor for a couple of the subjects? My DS's grades did gradually go up during the Autumn term of year 13, so it can happen!