I hate mornings

[SenSationsMad]

7am wake ups I can cope with but anything before just kills me. I'm out of practice and getting too old for this.
I'm just gonna get it out of my system, please excuse me............ AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH

Thank you [hwink]

I'm glad it all going in the right direction. Sending lots of sleeping vibes to your household for tonight. xx

Gladly recieving any spare vibes

OH fabulous! You put the stroking hair and being nice to LO much better than me with me "putting my hand on him"

certainly sounds like a good foundation to start from :)

sending sleepy vibes from here too :)

Baby is now sleeping through the night from 7pm until 5 - 5.30 am ish. It's much easier now as I have un interupted sleep. Gonna try take him up later tonight to see if he'll sleep longer - also he's only had two half hour naps today, so cross fingers it'll work!
Nice to feel human again!

WTG! glad that you are getting uninterrupted sleep now :) Lets just hope that the little one can make it a bit of a later start as 5.30 is a tad early!!!

glad that you are feeling human again :)

That's great news. Hopefully little one will have a bit of a lie in tomorrow.

spoke too soon (((( walks away with her head down)))))))

Aw, may be tonight??? x

:( booo

hoping that tonight is better again!

(((hugs)))

me too. It's like he's teasing me

It's not a good night after contact usually, cos he's unsettled, eats the wrong stuff ( bits and pieces) but I've been a little more organised today and arranged for them to have some tea whilst there. I'm hoping then he'll be ready for weetabix supper time and it'll keep him full until morning.

I don't want to send him to bed any later that 7.15pm to be honest, because then his brother will go to bed later, and he's been up since 6.15am too.

I'm going to stop moaning now, and be positive

You're doing great SenS, it's often trial and error with fostering, then one day you will wake up and they will be settled and sleeping like babies

Contact often does mess your routine up, however much you try to work round it.

Here's hoping for a peaceful night tonight.

I'm feeling the love from fellow fostering Mumsnetters! Thank you all

can I come stay with you SSM?? I'm liking the sound of a weetabix supper. I promise that I won't wake up at 5.30!

Yes of course! I'll put you up on DD's futon. Weetabix, warm milk, mashed bananas and a squirt of honey. Nigella I am not

How's it going with you? Any news?

ewwwww perhaps I won't come - unless I can swap the banana and honey for some sugar (what a hypocrite I am as the kids don't get offered sugar on their weetabix ;) )

(Bananas and honey are 2 of my most hated foods lol)

It is actually beginning to get me down, I just feel that life is kind of on hold, we keep having to factor the possibility of having a baby into our plans just incase but of course we are just sitting about waiting. And then I feel guilty as of course it is great that there are no children needing fostering. I guess it has just been such a long road to get here.

I am trying desperately to focus on other things - such a as shopping ;)

How was the wee man last night?

We had the night from hell! He was up basically from 2 - 4.30am, crying and screaming. It must be because if the injections he has last week
I'm due a good nights' sleep now.... please!

I think you should plan everything as you would for your family. Once things are set in stone, the phone is bound to start ringing. Sods law rules!

Our two will be having less contact from now on I think, but not through choice. Maternal GP are struggling. I'm guessing that they want the contact, but it's too much for them. Sad sistuation all round really.

I'm hoping DH comes home early tonight, I'm in need of adult company and loads of hands on support - I fancy a bubble bath and an hour to myself!

:( Sorry to hear you had a rough night, fingers crossed that LO sleeps better tonight.

Very sad about the contact dropping for your 2 LO's hopefully this won't upset them and be in their best interests

Also hoping that DH has not only come home early but has brought chocolate! although a bubble bath sounds heavenly too.

SW was round today, our LA has 26 open placements just now - so it isn't just us waiting! But some kind of exciting news, the LO that we had on respite may be coming for some more respite - a whole 28 days (give or take) respite! It's up in the air just now as LO is in the process of going home, but her parents are a bit nervous and their anxiety is getting passed to LO so it's not moving as fast as it was hoped. So at least there is something on the horizon. Hopefully she will be with her parents and we will only be on hand for respite for them. They lean very heavily on the foster carer they have just now so could be interesting!!

Ooooo! Exiting! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Didn't go for that bath, but we did have a take away

I've been reading another thread on here tonight on 4-5 am waking, so I've had some more ideas on how to tackle our current situation.

thanks for your support :)

sending you lots and lots of sleepy dust :)

I'm back again
Had a bad might again last night. LO 5yrs old was sick in the night ( but right as rain this morning!) and his baby brother woke us up 4 times!
I'm afraid that I gave in at 5am and gave him a bottle , but at least then he slept until 7.30am.
I'm cream crackered again this morning!

Oh well, I'm going away Christmas shopping this weekend and leaving everybody behind! And staying in a hotel too! (for one blissful night!! shame on me)

We had six nights last week where he slept through the night and now we're back to square one......

How is everyone else????

boo hoo. I've been up with baby since 5.15am, and I've got my period, and I did 31 hours too little work during November due to my new commitments. Did I say I got my period?

Well, I've done what I was dreading. I've written a letter to my boss explaining why I've not been able to work 31 hours during November, and how it's unlikely that I will be able to do my contracted amount each month whilst the two little lo are with us.

I don't want to give up work, I want to do both. LA are supporting me in this by providing a childminder for baby lo, but, by expecting me to go to meetings, medicals etc etc etc during my work hours, I'm failing in my work and

All I have to do now, is send it

( why do I feel guilty? I feel guilty for letting my company down, letting the LA down and my whole family including lo. It's my period isn't it?)

No.. its your very good nature and your wanting to please everyone.

If you didn't give a s**t, then you wouldn't feel so bad.

But yes, it is your period too!!!

Whats most important is that you don't feel like you're letting yourself down - that is negative and a slippery road to go on... you're not superwoman (I am ) and it sounds like something has to give.

Certainly not you, nor your family - they can't suffer - and you need to find a way to juggle fostering & your work...

Can you do less hours when you've got placements and more when you haven't?? I'm sure there will be a compromise somewhere - it may just be playing an excellent game of hide and seek right now!!

You don't deserve to have a downer on yourself - you're obviously a lovely wonderful person else you wouldn't be feeling like poo...

And yes, it is your period too... take an evening primrose capsule (or two) - they help me!!

Large glass of wine and a foot massage in order once the LO's are in bed...

Don't beat yourself up - there's far too many people out there that will do that for you!!!

Thanks Superwoman

Was able to work all day eventually, and am doing a stint tonight ( unusual for me)

Still waiting to here from my co-ordinator though (I sent her a draft ....)

Oh SSM! p99 is right! Hang in there you are doing great. Hopefully things will calm down and once you get in your stride with things I am sure that your working hours will slot into place.

Hoping your work are understanding - don't work too hard tonight - remember to leave some time for a soak in the bath and a nice glass of vino!!

((((hugs))))