yelnats, I know what you are trying to say, but sometimes that is just the way it is. If you are in the military, there is 'no other way'....yes you could choose to leave, but you will not be allowed to leave straight away, so the likelihood is that you will still go away on the 4 month or 6 month tour you have been dreading. Add into the mix the fact your wages might be what is keeping the family afloat, and your accommodation is owned by the military, and you can see how complex it is.
In addition....SOMEONE has to be strong enough to do these things for our country, and quite often that someone has kids. Traditionally that has been a man, but as woman have fought for equality, they have been offered a more equal role in the Armed Forces; unfortunately with rights come responsibilities, like time away from family.
gemmummy won't be making a fortune. She is not a city trader flying to South America for 4 months to persue loads of money or a big career move. At this point in time there probably is 'no other way'.
Good luck gemmummy. Hope you come back all fit and toned from the time you get in the gym there if nothing else!
One of the female fighter navs down there at the mo was trained by me when I worked Cranwell...give her my best if you see her!