Things not to say to a Forces wife

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Well, that's life in a blue suit.

(When telling someone your DH is off away AGAIN)

but think of the pensions...

Well you knew he was in the RAF/Army/Navy * (delete as appropriate) when you married him
or
Well you get a nice house -said by people who have never been in an MQ obviously

"but isnt your rent only about £40 a month"

"there's a group of us going away next year for the weekend, would you like to come with us"

er i have no idea if dh is of then

"can he not just book the weekend of"

hahahahahahahahahaha if only!!!!!

some stupid drunk man in the pub one night asked me if dh had ever killed someone???

kerry -someone asked DH that when he said he ahd done a tour of NI.
Also had he ever seen a dead body.

I often get "oh well you live rent free" a misconception indeed, and "I bet you don't pay council tax

'Only stupid, ill eduacted people join the forces because they are too thick to get other jobs'.....this was the jist of a thread on MN once

nice

saltire someone asked dh about the dead bodies one night as well, he said to the guy that he would be better of speaking to me because i funded my way through college working in a nursing home.

i dont think it was quite the answer the guy was looking for

But do your children know who he is when he comes home?

Naaah, we don't talk about him at all when he's away...

A friend once told me that her DH (a policeman) was going to Glasgow for 2 nights and her mum was going to stay with her because she was worried being on her own. I told her that when she had done 4/6 months on her own with her DH in a war zone and dreading every knock at the door, then she had the right to tell me she was scared and worried

Actually the most crass thing anyone has ever said to be was another RAF wife.

DH was just about to come home at the end of the first gulf war. He was there for the whole of the war, flying tornados.

At the end of the action, the squardon was brought home, and the other squadron on the base went out to monitor the situation immediatly post war.

My next door neighbour (who had said nothing to me over the 4 months dh was in theater) said, 'Well it is alright for you lot, your dh's are coming home and ours are about to go!'

Great, how very supportive of you.

LL - that sucks

But, that's life in a blue suit....

actually i even get pissed of with things the other wifes say, mostly the whinging ones who moan when the men and here and still moan when they are away.

i try my hardest to get on with it, looking after 2 dd's with dh posted away, working and studying at college so i can get a better job in the future but all it takes is some stupid cow who's dh has a stores job and works 9-5 monday to friday to complain about her dh being on (shock horror) a quard duty and having no-one to give her a lift to tesco and i snap. aaarrrrrrrgggghhhhh

get of your fat arse and learn to drive then!!!

this person winds me up in lots of ways but this is what she was moaning about today when she cornered me in the playground

Seriously though - I think you are all brilliant - and your DH/DP's.

It's hard going and you rarely moan. Well, except for that rabbity one

every 2nd person i meet when dh is coming to the end of a tour seems to ask me "are you looking forward to dh coming home then"

er no actually i am in talks with his superiors to see if they can just keep him out there for another 6 months!!!

lol kerry, thats right.

and at the beginning of a 6 month tour they say... dont worry it will fly by.
Then in the next sentance winge about something they have booked for the next week or so being soooo far away!

"so do you miss him then?"

eh....Doh

and has anyone else been been personally held accountable for war in iraq?/ afgan/ etc.......

i was always getting ' but you must agree with it' or ' but its so wrong' or ' how can your husband do it'.
and im sure having that said to be is going to put me in a good mood!! lol

This one was so stupid it was actually funny.

When dh landed after the first gulf war we were interviewed by the local radio

They asked dh 'How long have you been away?'

Dh '4 months'

and then they turned to me, dh and I were arm in arm and said, 'And how long has it been for you?'

Duurrrr, 4 months. What do you expect me to say, 'half a day since I last shagged the milk man????'

Same guy asked dh 'How does it feel to be home'

Dh said, 'In the annals of stupid questions, that has to be about the most daft! How the hell do you think it feels'

Oddly enough that didn't make the broadcast!

pesto -I get that a lot,as though the whole thing is DH's fault, or my fault. There was once an anti-war march where we used to live and the people on it were screaming at young children "your daddy murders other children". My mate had to hold me back, I don't lose my temper very often but that lot made me angry

I have to bow down to you ladies with DH's in war zones (although I have done my share of deployments, but that was back in the olden days, AND NO noT WW2, before anyone says anything!)

My DH is away alot, all summer at least, but not depolyed, and I do see him most weeks even if it is only for a day or so.

And I dont have LO's either.

I think all wives should get a LSGC, as well as the husbands.

i totally agree!

i said to dh last night that i did not know why i was doing all this ( see lack of posting thread) he gets the pay, he loves the job... i get to see him a few weeks a year and spend the rest of the time miserable!
lol

When DH got his LSGC medal, I was told that most of the wives get the opportunity to go along and watch. When DH got his he was told by some brigadier "We don't invite the wives along, after all they play no part in you getting this medla do they". DH then went to his Flt Lt and said he didn't want presented with it by the Brigadier, he told them just to put it in an envelope and post it to him

Saltire when DH got his, t was awarded at the end of the Oening Show of the season (big do with all the bigwigs, on the parade ground in front of all the families) the Brig pinned it on as DH turned to march off, it dropped off, and got kicked accross the ground!!!!

DH got to the do after and said 'I've lost it@

He hadnt, it had got kicked to the front row of spectators , the boss wife picked it up and passed it to me.