Boyfriend in RAF and pregnant

[Marrie22]

Hi I'm just wondering if someone could help me and answer a few questions... I've recently found out I'm pregnant and my partner is in the RAF as a reserve.. when I told him I was pregnant he wasn't to impressed and started to say he would have to leave the RAF cause they've told him he's not aload to have a child because he's doing a specialist position and he's training to be a pilot and he's trying to tell me that for him to complete his training I'll have to get an abortion (which I don't want) or they will remove him from training... so if we go ahead with this pregnancy he will have to wait 22 months before he could go back in to the RAF but he'd be to old to complete his training... I don't really believe what he's saying as I always thought the RAF support families..

Utter rubbish sadly OP. When DH went to test pilot school, 12 months training ££££££ cost we were all having babies - seemed like a good opportunity, 12 months assignment involving a move and 12 months off work for me.

I suppose he could have been deemed suitable to meet the criteria for applying/becoming a pilot so maybe not all lies, just the big one. .

I am aware that on other threads I have been criticised as having inadequate direct experience of the military to comment.

However, I am sure that there are no roles (full or part time) where having dependants is a bar. And even though some roles have to be paused during pregnancy (just as for any job with hazards) there is no bar to resuming them once fit again.

There are indeed specialist roles, but as a reservist you would only expect to find someone in one if their day job was relevant (ie the military get the skills on the cheap, and hope that deployment will be possible when required).

What is the name of his unit? What is the name of the base you have visited? What is the name of his CO?

Absolute bollocks, I was a specialist in the navy and got pregnant, I stayed in another year after dd1 was born. ( I chose to leave not forced out)

Do not believe another word your partner spouts without real concrete evidence ( and a reality check from an outside source ) and I would call him on it too.

I knew someone who a tornado pilot cleared for active duty. She could have stayed on when she became pregnant, but chose to leave the RAF for other reasons.

OP, did you find anything out about his so called Walter Mitty job?

@Marrie22 I was thinking of your situation this week. How are you?

I am ex RAF and a father. I can tell you 100% that is a complete lie.

If you need any information feel free to pm me.

How old is he? You sure he's not in the Air Cadets??