My children are fussy eaters and I have come to the conclusion that I quite frankly don't give a shitty shite!

[oliveoil]

they will not eat casseroles, but will eat chicken and veg DRY. So what, it is the same ingredients

only raw carrots, not cooked. Only red peppers, not orange or yellow. Again, so what, still veg yes?

will not eat fish - so what, they used to and may do again

I'll join

My kids moan about stuff but they still get it. As we all eat together I refuse to pander (because I'd get bored otherwise) and they can leave it if they like. Do ask them to have a mouthful of everything though. Praise them if they do eat well.

Am gradually getting used to only putting tiny amounts on their plates and still chucking stuff in the bin.

Andthistooshallpass andthistooshallpass

It won't last, you know you'll get in a panic again soon and start trying to feed them yellow peppers. You're a mum after all. It's a no-win situation

Can I join too?
All DD will eat is pastanosauce and petit filous and rice crispies. It is sooo dull but seeing as she is growing and well I have given up fretting.

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my psych advises that I CHILL OUT

serve up healthy ish(so that you can include things they WILL eat) meals and snacks

Quit making them finish the plate

Let them have pudding even if they dont eat their entire tea

Have faith that relaxing will bring about a healthy relationship with food and they will experiment and broaden their tastes when they are older

my neice seemed to live on pizza and sausages which horrified me at the time but at 19 she seems to be OK. Still just as picky but that really her call now isn' it.

oh no, I have thrown in the towel

eat what you want, see if I care [yawn]

they have a rotation of meals:

chicken, potatoes, carrots, peppers with houmous

pasta with tomato sauce (hidden veg)

pitta, houmous, and various veg

spag bog (eaten under duress and with curled lip)

sandwiches (dd2 eats them s-l-o-w-l-y and makes me lose the will to live)

I have tried other offerings and they have gone hungry, got upset and kept me awake all night moaning

so, they don't get fed rubbish, eat ok, see me and dh eating other stuff and help prepare it.....so quite frankly, I couldn't care less

Yes I will be in your gang. My ds was the same. He is getting better but it still drives me to distraction.

The other day he proudly told me he likes tomatoes as has tham at school for snak time.

I proffred said tomatoes at home. But apparantly they were no the same ....

tis there problem, not mine quite frankly

have washed my hands of it all

xx

eats them s-l-o-w-l-y and makes me lose the will to live

that sounds so familiar.

I will try and cultivate your don't care attitude.

previous breakfast in our house

me: gives toast
brats: I want butter, I don't, give me jam, cut the crusts off warrrhhhhhhghghghhghghghgh
me: YOU WILL EAT IT HOW I SERVE IT [rant]

now:

me: dd1, one with butter one with jam yes? dd2, dry bread crusts off, yes?
brats: yes

now which is better?

so what happens at dinner time when one wants chicken, one fish, one chips, one pasta?

they both get the same meal

ie chicken one

dd1 doesn't like green veg (), so she gets more carrots and peppers, dd2 gets the green veg and not as many peppers

same with sandwiches, both get the same, but dd2 has hers without butter

so I pander to a degree

you are much nicer than me. if mine dont like what is set in front of them then they go hungry. they get the old "this is not a restaurant" line.

Oliveoil - I am a longstanding member of your group.

DS eats a good diet from the range of stuff he likes, and I don't stress about the stuff he doesn't.

harleyd - do you knowingly prepare stuff that they don't like? As the main meal?

harleyd - I have tried that

and have come to the conclusion that I know what they will eat, it is not processed crap, so why not give them what they will eat?

they get a testing corner at every meal - which is poked and urrrrghhhhhhhhdd at and left - so do see 'new' foods

they peel garlic, pick leaves off the thyme etc

so they are in the kitchen, they know chips come from potatoes etc

and quite frankly, I am amazed I didn't come to my senses earlier

But I just have to come on here and tell you that my kids eat everything!

Everything I tell you!

or

I could tell you the truth and that DD eats so slowly I have to leave the room after about an hour on one piece of bread

that the only combined food she will eat is cheese sauce (from packet not homemade) on pasta, Everything and I repeat EVERYTHING else is separate.

She will eat chicken (under duress) on one plate, broccoli on another, peas on another.

BUT she will not ever NEVER eat a potato. Not even mash!

I've spent 4 years fretting about it, but now I vow to be more chilled out, she eats enough to make her grow, jump, dance etc, so what if it's all separate.

Build a bridge - get over it!!

(hhmmmn, somehow I think that last paragraph was specifically aimed at my MIL)

lol, i dont set out to make stuff they dont eat for badness. but if i am making fish for example and 1 likes tuna, 1 likes salmon, 1 likes cod then they just have to take what they are offered

My DD1 will eat pasta and noodles, chicken and someother meats, fish sometimes. Raw carrots, tomatoes and cucumbers.
Apples, grapes and oranges.

She eats Bran Flakes for brekkie, and cheese/pnut butter/marmite in a sandwich.
I feel that tho the selection is sparse it does cover the main things she needs so I stopped worrying about it.

Much less stress. And cos I no longer care if she eats what I put in front of her she tried Waffle the other day, apart from the odd few chips(she's not keen ) it's the only potato she will touch. I was really pleased. It had to be dipped in BBQ sauce tho

like the other day

we did parmesan and lemon risotto

yummy

they helped make it

DIDN'T EAT A BIT OF IT

dd1 was awake 4 times in the night saying she was hungry (only had fruit and a carrot for her tea)

so, why fret?

anyway, I have just had delivery of a cinamon danish and HAVE to do some work as well, so will be off

will check back later

BET you they start eating less fussily now....you have let go in a zen manner and surrendered...

lol

yes, peskly wind up merchants the lot of em

x

Three Cheers for OO, she has been through the fussy eater battle and come out the other side not bovvered.