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I've actually stopped caring about food

329 replies

Twiglett · 26/04/2007 16:25

I really have

I'm not sure I ever cared particularly that much

but then that's from a background of me enjoying cooking so have quite a good and varied diet of fresh food and lots of fruit and vegbut honestly couldn't tell you last time I read a label

it just seems so nonsensical to worry about it

and I'm quite happy for them to have biscuits or crisps or sweets too or a pizza from Iceland (woodburned) or ice-creams like Fab (which I'm sure were invented by the antithesis of MN foodies)

anybody care to join me in this dim and dingy corner of Mumsnet where most other posters believe we're going straight to hell?

OP posts:
AitchTwoOh · 26/04/2007 23:03

moony, i want to see your hug-a-ffer moment. i feel i have Taught You A Lot...

moondog · 26/04/2007 23:06

lol Aitch

I think going back to work has helped me put a lot of things into perspective.
(Still make sign of devil and hiss at tins of Aptimil in supermarket though..)

Greensleeves · 26/04/2007 23:07

Anyone who really thinks I think I (as one of the foodie demons who said this thread was shit) am a PerfectMother - or anyone else who happens to think nutrition is important - should read a few other threads and get to know the enemy a bit better. I doubt any of us think we are perfect parents, really. But I suppose it's easier to use somebody else as a handy coconut shy if you are assuming they think they are perfect. Which explains why so many of you think this sort of thread is funny and harmless.

Bedtime for me too. I have the joy of trying to arrange a meeting to get to the bottom of my 4yo's violent, unhappy behaviour waiting for me in the morning. But it doesn't touch me, because I know his breakfast porridge is organic.

soapbox · 26/04/2007 23:08

I do care what my children eat - but bother rather less for myself!

However, I do recognise the importance of not being obsessive about this or other parenting matters. I think getting balance right is important and getting messages about eating across to our children in a relaxed manner will help with this.

I do find that increasingly on MN there is an 'ernestness' about several matters which even although I am pro the matter in question, I find somewhat offputting. People taking themselves and their views too seriously jsut isn;t attractive behaviour to me. I have always been brought up to believe that it is most mannerable not to shine the torch of illumination too harshly in other people's faces - and I feel sometimes these manners somehow get relegated to the lowest league here.

Sometimes it seems like a version of the 'thought police', sometimes just a tad patronising, which I find odd considering that the views are those which I would often profess to hold myself.

OTOH perhaps I just don;t have the campaigning gene - perhaps I credit other parents too generously, to do what they feel is the right thing for their children. Nevertheless - I find the lack of tolerance for other view points lacking, in part, on both sides of this little spat and that is sad!

NadineBaggott · 26/04/2007 23:09

i don't think I said

I agree with Twig

but have no beef with anyone else

AitchTwoOh · 26/04/2007 23:18

hope that you can help him out, greeny, porridge notwithstanding. it doesn't sound like a lot of fun right now.

Greensleeves · 26/04/2007 23:19

Thanks Aitch

AitchTwoOh · 26/04/2007 23:31

greeny.

and moondog, i saw your kindly post. saw that the post right after had you declaring someone else's post to be 'utter tripe' and felt much more at one with the world. [relieved]

DavidGest · 26/04/2007 23:52

I hope Franny is not up late because of anything I did?

suzywong · 27/04/2007 01:20

Oh bloody hell fire I ALWAYS miss the good rucks.

whre's the bit where Twig says fuck off?
DO you have any idea it takes to read a thread backwards when one is trying to get breakfast and out of the door in time for Friday assembly?

Thank God the Fragrant boys can open scampi fries by themselves

Califrau · 27/04/2007 01:55

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suzywong · 27/04/2007 02:02

innit, though?

did you have a fabulous time when you came back to Blighty?

welliemum · 27/04/2007 02:02

Hmmm, i think I agree with a lot of what greeny and f&z are saying, because reading the first few posts, I did feel "got at".

Not in a personal way obviously, but for the fact that I do care about what we eat as a family. Not obsessively, but we try hard to eat well. We're busy and tired and we cut a lot of corners, but on the whole we do eat well and I'm pleased about that because it's important to me.

So I get offended at the (I know, general, not aimed at me personally) insinuation that on MN if you care about food, you're automatically a fanatic and you're judging other people. I'm very far from being a fanatic and I don't care what other people's children eat.

Anyway, I'm going to let this flow over me. I don't have the good fortune to be able to chuck random food at my children; I have to read labels or I might make them ill.

I've learned a huge amount on MN from other people who also read labels. If saying that puts me in some hugely unpopular camp.... I can live with that.

Califrau · 27/04/2007 02:14

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chipmonkey · 27/04/2007 02:21

OMG, feed them what you like, just don't put vinegar or chilli on their tongues if they're naughty!

OrmIrian · 27/04/2007 07:15

Eh? Welliemum? I've just read and re-read the first few posts and I really can't see anything there that could offend you or make you feel got at. Not a single critical or snidey comment. I don't understand...

Greensleeves · 27/04/2007 08:00

Well, given that there are quite a few of us (not all of whome "know" one another) who felt that, Ormirian, it would seem that you are indeed missing something. Either that or we are undergoing some sort of cybernetically transmissible mass hallucination

OrmIrian · 27/04/2007 08:02

Now that was snidey.

Just because you feel got at doesn't mean you were intended to feel that way.

Greensleeves · 27/04/2007 08:04

Whether it was intentional or not isn't the issue. I was referring to your inference that there was nothing at all to feel "got at" over. Clearly there is, whether you can see it or not. Unless we are all stupid or delusional.

Frankly I don't care whether you think my response was snidey. I'm pissed off and offended, so I wasn't exactly going for "nice and neutral".

OrmIrian · 27/04/2007 08:04

No. I've read it again and I don't see anyone's name mentioned or any critical comments. Just people giving examples of how they don't care that much about food.

OrmIrian · 27/04/2007 08:05

But why are you offended?

Greensleeves · 27/04/2007 08:09

I think I've detailed my feelings further down the thread, as has everyone else who thought this thread was nasty. I really need to go and think about other things now, so I'm leaving this.

OrmIrian · 27/04/2007 08:09

BTW good luck with your DS this morning.

Greensleeves · 27/04/2007 08:10

Thanks for that.

SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 08:26

Greeny my PerfectMother comment was not aimed at particular individuals. I don't think that any individuals on MN try to present themselves as that (thinks hard about it....no can't think of anyone.)

It was more relating to particular issues where I do think an ideal is presented and anyone veering from that feels got at, ridiculed or basically keeps quiet. I think alot of people do keep quiet about what they really think or do as it doesn't fit in the perceieved MN mainstream, but is much more likely to be RL mainstraem.

I think this thread was a bit of outing ourselves.

See nadineBaggots list earkier for examples of beahviour not tolerated on MN.

On a personal note though, you are obviously not a perfect mother, but certainly sound an excellent one, you know I think that. I am sure DS's problems are not down to any 'failure' on your part.

I saw your post on the other thread and just thought I'd say I am an Ed Psych (you said you may be referred) if you want to ask me anything, you have my email address, it's always good to hear from you.

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