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People who are really quite insistent about giving your child chocolate etc

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 18:37

Oh I know, they are just being kind. But when ds has already said no thanks the first time of asking, and when I have said "please not because we're just about to have dinner" the second time of asking, you would think that would be the end of the subject really, wouldn't you?

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 19:04

oh yes, I mean it is no huge deal, and I did say "we will have it after dinner", but it's just that I would rather he didn't have it anyway, and he had already said no thanks.

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chocolateshoes · 10/11/2006 19:06

it amazes me that the woman who runs 1 og the toddler grps I go to really does try to push choc on to DS1

ilovecaboose · 10/11/2006 19:08

My auntie looks after ds once a week. Ds can't have wheat or cows milk. LAst week she gave him a drink of cows milk. This week it was a wheat biscuit. She didn't even tell me she told my mum! No wonder ds was ill the next day. Its not as though I don't provide enough food for him so there is no reason to give him other stuff.

I don't mind when I can take stuff off him. But when they give it to him when I'm not around it pisses me off cos they don't know if he can have it or not. At family barbeque a couple of months ago someone gave ds a bag of crisps - a full bag. Ds chokes on crisps he can't eat them.

I know usually people don't realise so I manage to think its sweet most of the time, but I grew up with a sister who had multiple food intolerences as well and I just wish people would realise and check.

Oh and a friend was astonished that for my ds first easter he didn't get a single egg (I'd asked people not to) her dd got 10! full sized and she wasn't even a year old. And she ate them all! I got told I was cruel - that made me ROFL

northerner · 10/11/2006 19:09

Sugar pushers are just everywhere, usually grandparents.

hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:09

I actually try to get DS1 to eat sweets. He had a miniscule bite of a piece of toffee popcorn and did his "for the birds" line with it, then carried two pieces round for ages, giggling, before giving them to me to eat. And he was disgusted with the malteser I gave him and gave it straight back.

I do know that he won't be like this forever, btw - and I'm by no means smug about it - because he has an unrivalled chip/crisp habit. But it does make me laugh when people suggest using chocolate buttons to get him to potty train

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 19:10

Now if ds had allergies or intolerances I would be very cross about this sort of thing. As it is I am just being slightly precious - I am counting my blessings that I have the choice whether to give it to him or not, but you know it is slightly annoying.

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Greensleeves · 10/11/2006 19:11

Well, with a name like yours....

I have actually stopped frequenting one particular charity shop now because the old women in there keep a box of VIOLENTLY red lollipops on the counter and take special pleasure in whipping one out and pouncing on a small child while the parent is occupied scrabbling around for change after the ubiquitous "haven't you got anything smaller". It's a bloody pincer movement, one of them distracts the mother "have you got the seven? Only we're out of twos" while the other one swoops on the toddler. Last time they got us it took me the rest of the afternoon to persuade ds1 to swap it for a bumper bag of tropical fruit mix which cost me £2. The one time I actually saw her out of the corner of my eye and said "no thank you" she scowled at me like I had just fallen out of her ear, said "Oh, what a shame" and gave me my purchase in a bag with one of the handles ripped off. Old bag.

hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:12

Yes, same here, Franny

If DS1 was allergic to stuff, I think I'd probably pull the ears off people who persisted in offering it to him.

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 19:12

I think it's great if they don't get the sweet tooth too early, hunker. I mean, ds has always had a majorly sweet tooth - for fruit, ice cream etc - but the over intense, artificial sweetness of confectionary is something best left as long as convenient IMO.

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hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:13

You've put two red lollipops in your post there, Greeny - that's got shot of them!

Greensleeves · 10/11/2006 19:15

Oh yes

The yellow one is for me...mmmm....lemon

hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:17

Agree, Franny. DS1 didn't have sugar till he was one - any sugar He doesn't have a sweet tooth at all atm - wonder if that will change? His first sugar was in his (homemade) birthday cake - he pulled a face when he tried it and wouldn't eat it.

The sweetest thing he probably has atm is ketchup with his chips

Also wonder what DS2 will be like - he'll have earlier exposure to sweets, if DS1 does get a taste for them, although I'm doing the no sugar till he's one thing with him too. DS1 got too close to him with an (Organix) gingerbread man a couple of months ago - he snapped the leg off it and shoved it in his mouth

Cue DS1 wailing "Mummy, bwoken!" and me PMSL and asking why he'd stood right next to DS2 with it! [heartless]

hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:17

DS1 doesn't like ice cream either - "too cold, Mummy".

Did I mention he'd eat his own bodyweight in crisps if left to it though

foxinsocks · 10/11/2006 19:19

oh yes, allergies a different story.

I think I got close to physically assaulting a few people when dd's allergies were bad. People just don't get it. I think some people think you're being mean by deliberately excluding foods FFS. I re-educated a few people in my time

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 19:20

I don't think ds had any till he was about 2, 2 and a half

the taking a bit but not eating it phase was fun, but didn't last long enough for my liking

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hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:23

Just trying to think - the only sugary thing he has now is Yeo Valley yog I think - he likes "apple" and "lemon" yoghurts (peach and apricot to you and me - odd child!).

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 19:24

Ds has ice cream whenever he can get it, cake once a week at a cafe, and chocolate at a party or when we cross the path of some over-insistent kind person

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hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 19:26

Why don't random people give my DS1 sweets?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/11/2006 23:32

PMSL - DD thinks those yeo valley ones are apple too....

DD has a v sweet tooth - now. She can have 'some' things that have cows milk in. Whenever i suggest making something cooking something - its always got to have "Chocalot" in it .

threebob · 10/11/2006 23:36

I have a ds with lots of allergies and would let him eat all the "suitable" chocolate people would give him - I don't care about sugar and fat, he's under six and cleans his teeth. Fortunately suitable chocolate only comes out at Xmas here or he would be 20 stone.

hotandbothered · 10/11/2006 23:50

Obviously failed with my dd. When asked what she'd like for a snack (meaning fruit or breadstick or something) she thought for a second then said slowly "Um, I think I'm in the mood for something C H O C O L A T E Y..."
PMSL think 'where does this come from?'

helenhismadwife · 11/11/2006 17:22

I dont like it when people give my two dd's chocolate or sweets either or promise to give it to them for being good girls

my family sent a load of christmas presents back for the girls and I knew there were a few selection boxes so I opened them and dh and I ate them

no wonder my diets dont work

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FrannyandZooey · 11/11/2006 21:36

I love your name helenhismadwife

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Overrun · 11/11/2006 21:49

For me, visiting my grandparents is the ultimate nightmare in terms of this. I allow all my boys to have some sweets or chocolate occasionally, but do try and limit esp before meals.
I think my grandparents go into this frenzy of sweet things giving, as a way of compensating for lack of mobility etc. Even though I say, thats really enough now, they keep on rushing to find more biscuits, chocolate. My Nanna has got my ds1 addicted to her throat pastilles (which he probably shouldn't have at all).
The boys just cirle them in their chairs, as they scrabble to find more things to give them
Then to top it all off, their gardener insists on giving them all lollipops (the round sticky ones, like greensleeves mentioned). He must carry around huge amounts of these. As soon as he sees us, he runs off to his van to get them. DTs are still too young, but he ignores this.
The other week I was there and I left them in the car parked on the drive, while I nipped round the back to drop some shopping off. I come back to find three lollipops under the windscreen wiper and my boys going mental in the back trying to get out of their car seats to try and get them
Glad to get that off my chest anyway

oops · 11/11/2006 21:59

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