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Bloody kids.....

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Donbean · 05/07/2006 17:13

Ok so i have a friends son every week from school, he comes for tea then i take him home.
He doesnt like this, doesnt like that food wise.......
So today i asked him do you like pasta, tuna, sweetcorn....."OOOH yes" says he with enthusiasm.

I made the above, tuna and sweetcorn in the middle, pasta round the edges like hair round a face, tiny tomatoes as eyes, smile made out of cucumber.

Placed it with pride on the table and called them in....
He comes in says "need to wash my hands, dont like cucumber dont like tomatoe, im going to take them off"

Im proper pissed off and shall not be going to such effort again i can tell you.
What do you do when kids are SO fickle and SO fussy. It really is a nightmare and i realy hope that my ds doesnt end up like that.

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Donbean · 05/07/2006 17:13

Then...forgot to add...asked for more...never touched it and anounced "dont want any more now".
grrrrrrrrr [mad]

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fennel · 05/07/2006 17:15

I say in an icy voice "In this house we are polite about the food we're offered". etc. we have a big list of House Rules about things like table behaviour which my dds love to recite to unsuspecting guests.

sugarfree · 05/07/2006 17:15

I have discovered that the more effort and trouble you go to the less likely they are to eat it.
That's why I always use the Oliver Twist workhouse method at meal times.

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Donbean · 05/07/2006 17:20

Like the icy voice tip but especially love the Oliver Twist one!
Gues what though.....he doesnt like porridge, well mine any way [mad]

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Donbean · 05/07/2006 17:24

He is actually a really polite boy normally but i feel like they pander to him with the food thing, it makes it such hard work.
Why do people do this do you think?

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BadHair · 05/07/2006 17:31

You asked him if he liked pasta, tuna and sweetcorn and he said yes. You didn't mention the cucumber and tomato so he probably wasn't expecting them.

If you think that's fussy you really ought to meet my ds1. Search the dictionary under Fussy Eater and the definition is "Badhair's ds1".

Chandra · 05/07/2006 17:31

I only say, "I'm sorry dear, you don't have to eat it if you don't like it, but... there's nothing else! I will put your plate in the fridge in case you get hundry later" If they are hungry they will eat it, it's not as if I had cooked them worms with poo.

Now, entering into this topic, I'm DEEEPLY embarrased when my child does the same, and although I apreciate the amability of the mums who take the time and care to accept a la carte orders, I very much wish they didn't. DS is not offered a menu at home, I'll rather like it for him to be given the response above than having a poor woman working twice because of my DS's fussyness.

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Donbean · 05/07/2006 17:39

I understand that as adults we dont all like every thing but dear God this boy is almost anti food totally.
Not only does he dislike almost every thing but the stuff he does like has to be made in a specific way and presented in a specific way...otherwise he just will not entertain it.
He is nearly 8 and when i mention it to his mum she just smiles knowingly and says "ahhh, he only likes it the way i make it"
Well thats alright then....ffs

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Chandra · 05/07/2006 17:42

does she? ask her to send him with a packed lunch! if she knows he is so difficult she can not expect other people to fill her child requests, that's plain rude!

Your house, your rules, your food... take it or leave it!

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Donbean · 05/07/2006 17:45

It is isnt it.
I am keen for him to continue to come because he is fab company for my ds and they sit at the table when they eat which is a great influence on him. (we sit at the table but he gets bored with us and wanders off, with the boy he sits for as long as the boy does)
I just wondre how they get on at home with him.

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Chandra · 05/07/2006 17:52

"I just wondre how they get on at home with him. "

If he's like mine (and the proof is that the child stays put at at the table ). They don't allow him to leave the table until he has finished his food.

Wilfred · 06/07/2006 15:44

Agree with Chandra. Mine are 5 and 2 and not allowed to leave the table until they are finished.

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Donbean · 06/07/2006 20:36

to clarify, it is a battle to keep him at the table during mealtimes, he remains until the end of the meal BUT it is hard work. When this boy comes for tea, he stays no problem.

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roisin · 06/07/2006 20:42

ds1 has a friend who's a very fussy eater. I've given up trying to cater for him: we just have what we're normally having and he doesn't eat it - end of story. When I've tried to pander to his requirements he ends up just nibbling at it, so I figure we should just do what we normally do.

I do take the opportunity when he's left though to praise up the boys, and tell them how pleased I am that they are not fussy eaters. (Not in a nasty way though, because this lad is a nice, polite boy; he just doesn't eat anything except sausages!)

Don't get stressed about it. Just be grateful.

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Donbean · 06/07/2006 20:44

My ds is 2 and i wonder how such fussy children are created thats all, i just wonder how to avoid this route with mine.
I will just make what we have and that will be the end of it, at first i made an effort...not any more tho.

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SoupDragon · 06/07/2006 20:47

At least he ate one lot of the tuna pasta & sweetcorn and didn't refuse to eat it because it was contaminated by the tomato and cucumber you didn't mention.

SoupDragon · 06/07/2006 20:49

Which is what DS2 would have done - he doesn't grasp the fact that if he doens't like something he can simply remove it to the edge of his plate. Sigh.

You don't create fussy eaters, they just happen.

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Donbean · 06/07/2006 20:50

He did, and i was OTT with the praise for this, did however want to staple the cucumber smile to his forehead..........

note to ones self.....

must take feminax PRIOR to pmt kicking in....

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Donbean · 06/07/2006 20:51

so, in that case, my ds isnt going to be a fussy eater because he isnt a fussy eater now, phew, thank God.

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SoupDragon · 06/07/2006 20:53

Um... DSs used to eat anything until they hit around, er, 2. 18 months for DS2 because he had DS1 to copy.

I think stapling a cucumber smile to his head may give him a phobia of salad vegetables.

moondog · 06/07/2006 20:54

Don't bugger about with the smiley faces and whathaveyou.
It's food not playdough.
Also,don't give choices.

I have a friend whop brings her own food when I invite her and her children over.

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Donbean · 06/07/2006 20:55

hehehehe!
He is a lovely polite and sweet boy, other peoples kids just make you think though dont they.
I know that they are all individual but only having the one i dont realise just how different they are.
Do you see what i mean?

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Chandra · 06/07/2006 20:57

Donbean, I was refering to the other child in my last post, not yours. Maybe he is equally fussy at home but at home they don't allow him to leave the table until he eats. If he can stay for so long at the table, it is very likely that I'm right!

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Donbean · 06/07/2006 20:59

ahhh, sorry chandra i thought that you meant that i should look at my own bad habits before critisising some one else, of course i think that you would be absolutely right in saying that and i take that view on board but i see what you mean.
Sorry and thanks, i always enjoy your posts and advice.

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SoupDragon · 06/07/2006 20:59

Apparently DS1 physically recoiled from chicken risotto at a friend's house. I was mortified.