Bought DS a birthday cake instead of making one .. now I feel bad!

[twiglett]

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Nah, you shouldn't feel bad, not at all. Give yourself a break, you're pregnant!

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STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT YOU ARE SUCCOMMING (?) TO MOTHERS'S GUILT!!!!!

Well I'm thoroughly impressed. I intended to make a cake for ds 1st and 2nd birthdays and never quite got around to it, ending up with a shop bought cake both times. For his third I'm going to be 8 months pregnant so I really can't see that I'm going to make one this time around either!

You managed TWO home made cakes in his lifetime - that's awesome mothering!!

Blimey - isn't there enough to feel guilty about being a mother without adding cake making to the list? I'm feeling wholly inadequate here thinking you managed on the first two birthdays (I KNOW ds's first will be shop bought - unless I can convince friend's dd to break out the cake tin....)

Preggers, ill, and have made gingerbread and muffins? Are you trying to guilt-trip the rest of us here????
Kids always like shop-cakes best anyway, IME, horrible little beasts, and while I am sure your cakes were brilliant, the Duck-on-a-pond and Bear cakes I made for DS's 1st and 2nd b'day just had the adults muttering sotto voce 'what IS it?', and caused great embarrassment, so we will have a shop-bought Bob Builder cake next year!

Let me get this right - you're pregnant, you're not well, you have a son to look after, you're making muffins and gingerbread men, organising a party and you feel bad about what??!!!!!!

Go and sit down for 10 minutes and chill out

oh and happy birthday to mini twigglet xx

I am a total slob then as i have bought shop ones for first and second Birthdays and she REALLY wants the pig one from Sainsburys this year so we can say third too!!!
I can honestly say i feel no guilt about that particular issue!!!
Give yourself a break twiglett!!!

This is a wind up surely - you are super mum !! Cake making, no one told me that was in the job description.

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Well I think it's a disgrace. That poor little boy, neglected by an evil mother who can only think of herself

Honestly, does it really matter?

For future ref I made one for dd's first birthday, bought a load of shop made cake (slabs of madeira) shaped it into a mound, covered with icing, stuck lots of rows of different sweets and hundreds and thousands on it - it looked horrific but all the kids adored it esp the mini sparklers I put on the top!

Just customise it a bit if you are worried.

No Twiglett don't feel bad.

I am actually making DS's cake but I thats because its the ONLY thing I am doing!. He's having his party complete with catering, party bags etc at a local soft play place. But I really can't muster the energy or face the stress of making one that looks like something (we've previously had a hedgehog and a lorry). So we're just going to make a chocolate cake together and stick some jelly tots and candles on the top. But you are organising all sorts of party food, entertainment in a church hall, everything - so well done you!

I'm very impressed that you've managed to make 2 in 3 years - I haven't mananged one in 5 years if that makes you feel any better

Twiglett,

IMO it's more important that you spend your mumying time with ds, than making him a cake. And when he is at the childminders you rest to help the new baby, so you're not cheating, you're the perfect parent.

If it salves your conscience at all, try making a simple cake one day with ds. He'll love doing it (but you'll feel Kn*ckered afterwards)

DD1 got shop cake at her party because like Blu's ds, the little horror always declines my homemade efforts. Honey, watch some more telly!

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twiglett, I too feel guilty when I don't actually do anything during ds' nursery time (a regular event) but my body does need the downtime and it's probably very good for me and the baby to have the rest

You're doing a great job!

I'm not making my ds a cake at all for his 1st. Do I feel guilty? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

And I only got him a tiny present, that isn't really a present at all as I would have given it to him straight away if I hadn't thought to save it for the big day. Do I feel guilty? Absolutely not, he will get lots of presents from his GPs.

When one of the other mum's in my M&B group was reeling off all the things she has to buy for the 50 (!) people she has invited round for her ds's 1st birthday, I was quietly horrified at the expense and the waste of it all.

Good God Twiglett! I would feel guilty if I made a cake - especially when the law suits rolled in

A cakes a cake, don't worry as long as he has a happy birthday, nothing else matters

How do you make a cake?

Can cakes even be made? - I thought they came with the box on them. If I want a pint of milk I don't find a cow, I find a supermarket. Same applies to cakes.

Agree about the adults vs kids thing. I think the sparklers on the hill idea sounds great!! You can always tell them its the Teletubbies hill or something if they ask (but they won't). Really its only adults who are impressed by flawless renditions of Winnie the Pooh. Don't get me wrong, I really admire the effort that's gone into them! Only reason I bother with a cake at all is the DD's creche expects one for the morning tea on each child's birthday and the reward for DD is sitting in the special chair while everyone sings happy birthday so I'm happy to oblige with a cake from the supermarket. I daresay when she's older I will be required to supply one for the party though - bring on the sparklers!

I made a cake for my DDs third birthday but I think she would have preferred a bright pink Barbie cake from M&S. I was on maternity leave at the time - this year I'm sure I will buy one.