feeding other people's kids

[Tarzanna]

After ending up with a 2 year old who ate only jam sandwiches we now operate a firm eat what's on your plate policy with ds and dd. They eat well. we are able to eat together each evening which helps. Empty plate means pudding, not finishing means no pudding. I know it contradicts all gurus who say don't make food an issue but it works for us and kids are well fed and right sort of size for age.
So what do I say to friend who looked at tea I had prepared for hers and mine and said " sorry my kids won't eat that !" It was veg chilli with tacos- lots of hidden veg in a tomato sauce. Homemade !

I didnt mean by my post that it's the fault of other mums about fussy eaters although I can see how it sounds like that. The sort of food I am talking about is very different to the sort of food ds's friends are used to and I dont regard his friends as being fussy for not eating it.

Sorry if any one offended.

Now I did used to think that ds being a gentle non hitting/biting child was down to our good parenting and people with kids who did this influenced them in some way. Well, I know know how wrong I was there!

Sorry, Tarzana, I don't like the idea of children being fussy, either, but It's rude to expect your guests (even children) to definitely like whatever you've thought to cook up. Guests get away with slightly different rules in the house than my children, that's what it means to be a host.... I always ask before I cook something if we are having a guest, of any age.

My step-mum can't eat onions (they make her very ill) so she'd be saying no to your chilli, too I suspect....

not aimed at you hercules, just the world in general. I have a friend who very concernedly just says 'Do you give him pudding instead of first course if he won't eat it?' and it drives me mad. So am a bit sensitive on this subject!