I think Flamesparrow is done.

[Flamesparrow]

Obv I am not abandoning the xmas do organising, but for everything else, I just don't care any more.

Life is fairly shit a lot of the time, and I don't know how much is due to me analysing every little thing I say because of MN.

Maybe I will have more luck in the real world.

I am a bit PMt murderous today so Kerry if your up for a brawl i can pull hair and my nails are pretty long?

Flem love the track now can you post a just going on a wee holiday one then come back pleeeeeeeeeeeeze.

I get it KM. I'm hurt of course, but I understand. They are big boots to fill.

flamey, you're a love, don't be sad.

Says it all

Can everyone just stop leaving, I joined was just getting into it then everyone starts buggering off, come to think of it, is it me?

Don't leave Flame, I heart you.

Flame - I'll miss you.

Flame if you refer to that thread, dont worry, I am past it, I dont care who anybody is really, and I have learnt to live with not giving a flying hoot whether I have "spoken" to posters before.

Truth of the matter, none of us matters. We are just filling a void for eachother, and at the end of the day, it means nothing at all.

Pure waste of time.

I dont care whether you are Alice, Jane, PetraPoodleBrush, Flamesparrow, Flamebat, AnonumousScaryPoohMum, or not. Really, it doesnt matter.

don't go flame, we need you on the weight loss thread!

You all know I will be coming back to this thread for the rest of the day . So technically I have flounced from the rest of MN, but not the Xmas do, my flouncy thread, oh or my boot one.

QS - No, it wasn't just your thread - other people have complained about it to me too

the point is though that it does matter to me. People who are just names and I couldn't even tell you how many kids they have without clicking on a profile shouldn't matter this much to me.

I think.

Or maybe society has evolved enough so they should matter.

I have no idea. All I know is that my moods and depression are spiralling and MN is not helping, I have no idea if it is hindering but I won't know until I leave.

Flame, I think forums like this has replaced a very important function in society: that of village woman chatting at the well, or by the fence.

Women dont do this anymore, we are so busy, lead such isolated and secluded lives with our families, yet the need to chat with other women about life, the universe, kids, cabbage and philandering husbands and politics still remains.

I DO care about posters I see a lot of, and I miss them when they are gone, and for that reason I miss you too.

It is not just a faceless stranger. Society is evolving.

I don't want you to leave flame but i know what you mean about MN making things worse sometimes. I find that I can get a bit obsessive about MN when i am low. I don't even realise it at first - I just find I am on here for hours at a time even when I am not really enjoying it. Its at these times that I worry if I don't get a response to a post etc - most of the time that sort of thing doesn't bother me. {{{hugs}}} I am madly busy this week but hopefully we can meet up for coffee next week instead xx

oh, flame

sorry you are feeling so down.

you'll be missed, but I kind of get your need to see if MN is part of the problem. I know I spend way too much time on here and it just becomes part of the need to escape from RL rather than tackling the issues that make me want to escape from RL in the first place.

I hope you can get things sorted and we'll see you back here soon

and FWIW, your name changes are always pretty obvious, or it doesn't take too much figuring out to see it's you.

Take some time off then, young Flamesparrow, but I want to see you back here, now is that clear?

nah that is just you KM.

I was very impressed to see that you managed to bring your foot into a thread again this week

QS - are we like it because of the forums though, or are the forums a development to solve an issue that was already there?

I have already done a lot more since starting this thread (my kitchen is starting to reappear).

I v much doubt I have the willpower to disappear never to return (esp with having to keep coming back to sort xmas stuff), but I desperately need to get some level of sanity.

sanity- wtf is that????

seriously- you won't go for good will you??

I agree, if mn is making you feel like that it's time for a break. It's quite possibly the way you are feeling that is making you more sensitive to things that wouldn't normally bother you. But if being on here is making things worse it's time to step away.

Let me know if I can do anything.

I know what you mean about it interfering with RL. I spend far too much time on here. I start off with great intentions of just checking in for 20 mins with a cuppa in the morning and then suddenly the day is gone.

I used to go out and about much more too. It is easy to become obsessive about it.

I don't get involved in arguements though. I am good at avoiding threads that will kick off.

Anyway - I won't say goodbye as I will see you at the meet up!

I think it is in relation to an issue that is already there. However, some get addicted and some dont. I think you find that some women do nothing but hang out at the well and gossip, others gossip while they are at the well and then go home and dont really care about the well until next time they fetch water. I tend to stay longer than I have to.

You can't go completely!
You've just signed up for a year of bookswapping.
We are missing you on postnatal.

I do know what you mean, and think a break may be a god thing, or at least cutting back a bit.

I only really look at the three threads I post on regularly iyswim, so have no idea what has happened, but I do hope you don't leave us totally, and feel happier soon.

I was going to bribe you with books too! Jas beat me to it...