Cheerio

[VelvetSnow]

I wouldn't expect many to recognise me but I just thought I'd say cheerio.

MN is not the place for me anymore.

Recent events have left me completely disillusioned and I just don't have the confidence to post anymore.

I didn't even make it a year! Shame that.

Wishing everyone all the best.

Bye.

Abs, I'll be more sheepish on the boards tbh, but it's my kitchen and I feel among friends here :)

oh and welcome back

Welcome back! So glad that the campaign worked

Just to say, I reported workdrivesme on the other thread - meaning that I thought her posts should be deleted, so I don't know if that was why the whole thread was deleted.

Velvet I think they must have! I can't believe I misread it in my head for so long! Glad you decided to stay btw, I've noticed you around and love your name and posts :) Pretty sure I say your name correctly though... :o

I'll look out for you now Velvet

Is that a threat, Rhubs?

blimey Rhubarb0, i've just read some of the FB thread and feel like tearing my head off, well done for keeping your sanity! I hate it when people get so enraged they can't debate properly (talking about the other posters- not you)

Glad to see you back velvet :)

ok you can all go mad threading about threads now Velvet's seen it....

My work here is done :)

Welcome back Velvet!

Rhubs, likewise but honestly, you opened up a little back there - cheers for the advice

Yes everyone, go mad they can delete my most favourite this thread all they want :)

I think that you can't intellectualise feelings. It is almost fashionable now (and born from intellectual snobbery) to scorn intense and collective feelings. It is seen as too tabloid, too soap operaish.

Now I am not suggesting that every bruise on a child should warrant immediate removal by social services or violence towards the parents but I also think intense negative feelings about such an action, if true, is entirely human and normal.

I am sorry you also suffered in childhood Pagwatch but I just can't believe that the solution is to do nothing. In my case, yes, I think someone telling my adoptive father he was a bullying, abusive twat would have helped me. It would have validated me and my feelings about him. It would have stopped me questioning my very sanity because I had been brainwashed and gaslighted into believing I was the one with the problem. I would have escaped sooner (I have no contact with him now) and been less damaged.

As it is I am rebuilding my life successfully but I feel so passionately about this that I am writing a fantasy book for young adults specifically aimed at the bullied and abused and with those themes in mind. I think it is important to somehow reach these people as the cycle generation after generation causes more damage to humanity daily.

Anyway I am aware I am sidetracking this thread. Velvet welcome back

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anytime velvet me old mucker. I shall now stalk you

No one disagrees with you squarebugs, but if it is a pinch on the cheek from an aunt, and the mother hasn't even mentioned it to the aunt, then surely telling her to mention it and perhaps ask the aunt to leave is more appropriate that screaming for social services?

Square,

I think you keep missing the point I am trying to make.
The alternative to shrieking, shouting negligence and threatening social services is not to do nothing.

I fnd it pretty annoying actually, this persistence that the two alternatives are to shout aggressive abuse at her or shrug it off.

I have posted to the op that she should take steps to get the woman out of her house. Lots of people have.
They have just done it while recognising that an essentially good woman has been thrown massively out of her depth by circumstances she hasn't quite managed to process.
She is shocked and worried and needed good advice.

And I would have thought it was sensible to best protect the child by helping her mother to do something. Making her too frighten to ask for help seems to be an odd way to achieve that
Name calling, abuse, threats do nothing except let the shouter vent. It is quite a selfish act really

Oh right, I thought square was on the wrong thread for a minute!

Gawd, I can see why journos have a go at Mumsnet sometimes. Why newbies are put off. I also fully sympathise with flouncers and quiet leavers. Head and brick wall come to mind.

So glad your back!
The others were drinking and it was starting to turn nasty! Please restore order to your kitchen and keep the love going!

Well done people, mission accomplished. :)

Welcome back VS. This has been an epic flounce thread.

Certainly been an eye-opener.

pinot I gave you some flowers on the MNHQ thanks thread for making this happen

What do you mean?

I mean nothing. Or everything :o

Ahhh thanks Dreams that's luffly of you my chick! Merci beaucoup

A cloak and a beret?

I'm just being dumb. I'm always the last one to know things, thought id missed something...