Anyone seen Bridget Jones 4 need advice before I take DM

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My DM and I are looking to enjoy a girl's night tomorrow and see Bridget Jones mad about the boy. However my Dad died earlier this year quite suddenly, it was all a shock and we are still grieving. We are doing well, keeping busy and generally positive but I'm worried spoiler alert about the fact Mark Darcy dies and will it be a good idea if my mum recently lost her husband. We did talk about it and she still wants to go and said to me she can't hide from these things in life and I totally agree, but for anyone who has already seen the film do you think we should just wait until it's on TV and give her more time. Or do you think it's not a big part of the film and the comedy will outweigh this. Like I said I think my DM will be fine but just want people's views who have seen it and will have a better idea.

it’s quite a sad/moving film in places but I liked it. If you’re trying to avoid anything dealing with grief though maybe leave it for now.

I’m not sure I could watch it if I were in your mum’s position tbh. It’s actually quite sad in places and while there is humour it’s also very poignant. Mark’s presence and his loss features quite heavily - I was crying at the end scene.

Hmm I maybe wouldn’t. I was widowed 8 years ago and cried my eyes out most of the way through. It’s a very accurate portrayal of what it’s like being widowed young with children, and it dominates the film. She might find it so different from her situation (e.g. no young kids/work/dating?) that she’d be okay with it.

also (not really a plot spoiler) Mark Darcy died in a sudden way and it shows Bridget pouring over his death in a newspaper clipping and holding his glasses late at night - I found that very close to life and difficult to watch.

My friend who lost her husband in the autumn found it a bit too much. Though she said it was well done.

Hmm, I'm not quite sure. It is very emotional, and not just about Mark Darcey but also briefly Bridget's dad, which may resonate more age wise possibly - that part certainly made me think of my uncle who died recently. Grief is quite a big part of it.

However, it also very funny. I guess it depends how raw you are both feeling, and whether you might find getting emotional at some points cathartic or just too much.

It's a really nice film and if she's seen and liked the previous ones, she may enjoy it - however, the whole premise is SPOILER how Bridget's life has been on hold since becoming a widow and concentrates on her getting back to work/social life/dating. Plus Mark (or his ghost) shows up a few times.

It's funny but also very sad in parts. Only you know if your mum will be able to enjoy that but as pp said, if you're looking to avoid anything that focuses on grief etc, this is probably one to miss for now.

SPOILER ALERT *. It is a major theme of the film and there is another main character death mentioned which might actually hit your mum a bit harder. The focus is very much on Darcy's death and how the family are coming to terms with it and moving on. I found it very sad. It has the usual BJ farcical comedy etc. You know your mum best and how she has been dealing with her grief, but in your shoes I might be tempted to give her a bit of a trigger warning.

There are also flashbacks to when her dad died and the lead up to that when he was ill in a ?hospice which I found quite sad too- I was quite weepy throughout the whole thing. Sorry for your loss

It's funny but the death of Mark Darcy is a major thread through most of the film. I think in general it's uplifting and it reminds you that grief is a common and shared experience, but it's not over in the first five minutes. There are also spoilers scenes with Bridget's dad which might also touch a nerve.

I cried A LOT and I am not a widow or recently bereaved - I think it might be a bit much under the circs. VG film though (as Bridget would say)

Widow of 4 years with young kids here. It's a massive part of the film and I had to stifle my sobs in parts, but I also laughed until my stomach hurt in others.

I found the sad parts comforting because someone was describing exactly what it's like when often I feel like no one gets it. I'd take your DM. She might find comfort in watching something that she can relate to in parts.

I found it sad and funny in equal measures but my advice is give it a bit more time.

I have no experience with loss on this scale but I have seen the film. I cried. And I never, ever cry. Never at movies and very rarely in real life. It's brilliant and funny but the underlying tone of loss is there from the very first scene until the end. I'd give your mum more time if I were on your position, but you know her best.

My Dad died in June and I took my Mum to watch it the night before his inquest! I thought it would be light relief and hadn't expected Mark Darcy's death to come up as much as it did. I spent a lot of the film worrying that she was finding it very upsetting but fortunately she enjoyed it. However, if I had known how much his death came up I would never have suggested it.

I went with my mum not knowing the storyline. I lost my dad two years ago and my mum was ok with it but had I have known the story I may not have gone with her.

It was a very moving film, I cried a lot and the theme of loss is very strong throughout. I found the scenes about Bridget's lovely dad extremely sad. I would perhaps wait a while.

I went with my friend who has not long lost her dad and we had no idea that grief would run through the story. We laughed and cried the whole way through, we found it uplifting generally but very teary. So if you don’t want tears then I’d avoid but I really enjoyed the film x

I don't think I could watch it if I was suffering from grief right now. I cried a few times as it really does get to you. He features lightly but when does it's important moments.

Sorry to hear about your dad, It is a really good film with its funny and moving moments but it focuses heavily on her husband not being there. I am not grieving over anyone and I cried several times throughout.

Thank you all for the replies, I truly appreciate it. To be on the safe side we will leave it for now, I didn't even realise what happens to her Dad and that will be quite emotional right now so I'm very glad I asked. It's been really helpful to hear about your experiences, so thank you again.

I thought it was a lovely film. Better than I expected. But yes, wait until it's out on Netflix or wherever so she can decide not to watch it if it isn't the right fit.

Is there anything else on at the cinemas at the mo that might be more lighthearted

I loved it and laughed alot but honeslty cried loads and it's not something I've been close to. I think it would hit too close to home

I think it's a good decision to wait a while. We were all crying from about the first 10 minutes! It was really good though.

Sorry for your loss.

I watched it yesterday and sobbed through most of it. I was at the baby screening, so had my newborn on my chest and the tears could be postpartum induced, but I found it so emotional.

Personally, I wouldn’t watch it if I had lost my husband or father recently, unless I could watch it at home.

I wouldn't.

I spent most of the film balling my eyes out, and I haven't had any recent losses to contend with. It was very sad and very emotional. Brilliant, yes. But really really emotional.

Sorry to you and your Mum for your loss ♥️