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The Father

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/07/2022 14:05

Olivia Colman and Anthony Hopkins at their absolute best but Jesus, I feel totally wrecked after watching it.

It's on Netflix.

Anyone else seen it?

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billyt · 22/07/2022 14:52

Want to. Will do when I get a chance to watch in one go.

The play was brilliant, well scripted and acted. Hoping the film is too

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/07/2022 15:15

I can imagine the play was incredible.

I say down to watch it knowing nothing about it.

Hence feeling totally wrecked.

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MadeleineBassettHound · 22/07/2022 15:23

Yes it’s brilliant. There are a few good articles online about how they used the same basic set for each of the locations to add to the sense of disorientation. Really clever.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/07/2022 16:22

MadeleineBassettHound · 22/07/2022 15:23

Yes it’s brilliant. There are a few good articles online about how they used the same basic set for each of the locations to add to the sense of disorientation. Really clever.

Yes, I realised that during the last scenes of the unit which looked like the huge flat. Very cleverly done.

So did the husband hit him or was that just general confusion and terror?

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whenwillthemadnessend · 22/07/2022 16:28

It was so sad Heartbreaking. I absolutely love mr Hopkins anyway

It took me a while to understand as I knew nothing about the story.

I don't think he was hitting him personally. I think it was in his head.

Such a cruel illness

garlictwist · 22/07/2022 16:30

I think this is the most moving, amazingly acted film I have ever seen. I had goose bumps throughout. It is so hauntingly sad. They are both brilliant in it.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 22/07/2022 17:21

I had to stop about 20 minutes in, it was too difficult to watch. Brilliant acting.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/07/2022 21:37

whenwillthemadnessend · 22/07/2022 16:28

It was so sad Heartbreaking. I absolutely love mr Hopkins anyway

It took me a while to understand as I knew nothing about the story.

I don't think he was hitting him personally. I think it was in his head.

Such a cruel illness

That was my take on it too.

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/07/2022 21:38

garlictwist · 22/07/2022 16:30

I think this is the most moving, amazingly acted film I have ever seen. I had goose bumps throughout. It is so hauntingly sad. They are both brilliant in it.

I don't like Olivia Colman usually but she was excellent in this, just brilliant.

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AnyFucker · 22/07/2022 21:45

It was heartbreakingly superb

balalake · 23/07/2022 18:06

Saw it at the cinema. Even more moving for me personally as someone I have known all my life had Alzheimer's (has since died). My mum went and had to leave because it reminded her of the person, a lifelong friend.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 23/07/2022 18:13

Devastating film.

All the way through, I was thinking, 'Oh God, what if...' for my parents, DH, and myself. Then at the very end, he just turned into a frightened little boy, and the thought that that might one day be DS, and I wouldn't be there to help him...

Anyway, yes, both DH and I were utterly destroyed by it.

MrsHaroldRobbins · 23/07/2022 19:42

I've just finished watching it. I'm floored, so beautiful, so sad, so cleverly done. You really felt the confusion. I absolutely love Anthony Hopkins. Fabulous.

Abracadabra12345 · 26/07/2022 21:26

I agree.
I was completely unprepared. I was looking for something to watch on Netflix, saw the trailer, liked it enough to play the film.....and was absolutely gobsmacked. I didn’t even realise what the film would be about so this is how unprepared I was. I got my DH to watch it with me next day, so twice in two evenings and I still had goosebumps.

Agree with all everyone is saying. No wonder it won nominations and awards.
It was astonishing

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 26/07/2022 23:58

Abracadabra12345 · 26/07/2022 21:26

I agree.
I was completely unprepared. I was looking for something to watch on Netflix, saw the trailer, liked it enough to play the film.....and was absolutely gobsmacked. I didn’t even realise what the film would be about so this is how unprepared I was. I got my DH to watch it with me next day, so twice in two evenings and I still had goosebumps.

Agree with all everyone is saying. No wonder it won nominations and awards.
It was astonishing

I was the same, totally unprepared!

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Amalgamation · 27/07/2022 02:01

Watched it last night and it blew me away. The acting was superb but I think it was the cleverness of how it was done that made it so... special?

Special feels like the wrong word in the context, but hopefully you know what I mean.

I only knew very briefly what it was about and considered avoiding it because I'm one of the main carers for my own father who has dementia, and I thought it would just be too heartbreaking to watch. Too close to home.

I finished thinking it's maybe one of the best films I've ever seen on so many levels. It gave me such an insight into how he was experiencing things a few years ago, and brought back memories of what my gut always wants to describe as happier times. I realise that might sound absolutely absurd - bear with me - but Anthony still seemed to be Anthony to an extent for a lot of it whereas we are beyond that stage now. My DF is gone, a shell almost. Seeing Anthony's moments of trying to hide his confusion, or talk about his other daughter as if she was still alive, or even at the end when he was talking about his mum as if he were a child - they all reminded me of the times when my dad was still my dad.

But the film has almost made me realise that's a bit selfish of me and now I feel like I can actually make peace with things. Anthony's experience, with him still being Anthony, was just awful for him. Whereas now my DF has almost entirely lost himself, I believe he's actually much more at peace. I think I would rather be a friendly stranger who is kind to him than 'his daughter' who he believes is his dead sister years ago, if that makes any sense.

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 27/07/2022 02:05

We watched it as one of our ' Lent films' at church. Luckily I watched this one at home on my own because I sobbed.

The bit when he said " I feel like a tree that's losing its leaves" (or something very similar) Sad

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 27/07/2022 07:53

Amalgamation · 27/07/2022 02:01

Watched it last night and it blew me away. The acting was superb but I think it was the cleverness of how it was done that made it so... special?

Special feels like the wrong word in the context, but hopefully you know what I mean.

I only knew very briefly what it was about and considered avoiding it because I'm one of the main carers for my own father who has dementia, and I thought it would just be too heartbreaking to watch. Too close to home.

I finished thinking it's maybe one of the best films I've ever seen on so many levels. It gave me such an insight into how he was experiencing things a few years ago, and brought back memories of what my gut always wants to describe as happier times. I realise that might sound absolutely absurd - bear with me - but Anthony still seemed to be Anthony to an extent for a lot of it whereas we are beyond that stage now. My DF is gone, a shell almost. Seeing Anthony's moments of trying to hide his confusion, or talk about his other daughter as if she was still alive, or even at the end when he was talking about his mum as if he were a child - they all reminded me of the times when my dad was still my dad.

But the film has almost made me realise that's a bit selfish of me and now I feel like I can actually make peace with things. Anthony's experience, with him still being Anthony, was just awful for him. Whereas now my DF has almost entirely lost himself, I believe he's actually much more at peace. I think I would rather be a friendly stranger who is kind to him than 'his daughter' who he believes is his dead sister years ago, if that makes any sense.

That makes perfect sense and I totally understand 💐

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lollipoprainbow · 30/07/2022 23:19

Just watched it, I'm an absolute wreck not helped by the fact my mum has advanced dementia. What a wonderful film and performance by Anthony Hopkins.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 31/07/2022 10:02

lollipoprainbow · 30/07/2022 23:19

Just watched it, I'm an absolute wreck not helped by the fact my mum has advanced dementia. What a wonderful film and performance by Anthony Hopkins.

That must've been very hard to watch 💐

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TalkingToMyselfAgain · 31/07/2022 10:04

I watched it the other night. I knew what it was about and had wanted to see it. It was very cleverly done, but utterly heartbreaking at the end

speakout · 31/07/2022 10:09

Amazing movie, sad, thoughtful, production was incredible, listened to some of the team talking, about how much doors/corridors were used, leading to confusion even for the audience were not sure which apartment we were in, and ultimately the hospital.

Nadal · 31/07/2022 10:09

I saw this last week. Quite astounding and makes you understand the confusion. Heartbreaking for all.

Do you think Ann really moved to Paris? I thought the husband did really hit him, but I guess that's the issue. A ball of confusion so impossible to know for sure.

crossstitchingnana · 31/07/2022 10:24

I saw this at the cinema. That bit at the end, when he asks for "mummy" - I'm welling up now just thinking about it. It is an amazing film, the disorientation it creates and the performances. Spine-tingling. I will watch it again. Tissues ready.

Bbq1 · 31/07/2022 10:25

My mum and me went to see this at the cinema when it was released. It was so moving and it really wrings you out emotionally. As you watch, you feel something of the disorientation and confusion that the character experiences. It is extremely sad but very compelling. We found it a difficult watch having not long lost my wonderful dad but I think it's just such a powerful film. Anthony Hopkins was incredible in the role. I'm not normally a fan of Olivia Colman but she was was so good too.