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The Lost Daughter? **Contains Spoilers. Title edited by MNHQ**

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partystress · 31/12/2021 11:33

Have had a really crap week (death in family, arguments, illness) and will be having a very low key NYE with me, DH and 18 year old DD. Will watching The Lost Daughter only make us feel worse or does it have something uplifting about it? Haven’t wanted to read too much about it as I prefer to come at films with a completely open mind, but need a bit more foreknowledge today!

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rosegoldwatcher · 31/12/2021 13:09

I have just finished watching it.
Too early to say whether I liked it or not; needs a bit of unpicking.

Olivia Coleman is exceptionally good.
It's a bit slow, thought provoking, menacing in parts.
Not a movie to raise the spirits IMO!

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partystress · 31/12/2021 14:10

Thank you. Will leave it a bit then. Maybe one for when we have a few more daylight hours!

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Awrite · 31/12/2021 23:07

I've decided to take a break. I'm halfway through and will watch the rest tomorrow.

Olivia Coleman really is terrific in this.

TheUnquestionedAnswer · 31/12/2021 23:10

I turned it off halfway through as well

Nospringchickendipper · 31/12/2021 23:16

I watched this in the cinema as I wanted to see it before it came out on Netflix.
It was a bit slow at times but I could relate to some of it. The relentless of having young children.

anormalperson · 31/12/2021 23:22

I agree re a bit slow. It was a strange one, the character I found really horrible but the acting was great. Thought young Olivia Colman was especially good. Despite the slowness / dislike for the MC I watched the whole thing so there was clearly something I liked about it ... just not sure what. A very helpful review 😬

LiterallyKnowsBest · 01/01/2022 11:22

Intriguing and amazing … Superb cast and really flawless acting - I’d never particularly noticed either Jessie Buckley or Alba Rohrwacher before and they were both utterly transfixing in this. And Olivia Colman’s ability to portray jostling emotions, joy, snobbery, fury so swiftly and minutely was gobsmacking.

I adore Maggie Gyllenhaal as an actor so it’s exciting to see this triumphant evolution. It’s very different to the majority of films one is made aware of - very, very grown up.

(After devouring every second of the streamed adaptation of Elena Ferrante’s ‘My Brilliant Friend’ - one of my greatest screen pleasures last year - this made an interesting comparison. The former was much noisier in every possible way - brash, violent, colourful, but they both centred women and allowed emotion to unfold slowly before our eyes. And the Rohrwacher connections were interesting. Hadn’t realised until yesterday that Alba Rohrwacher narrated My Brilliant Friend, or that her sister Alice Rohrwacher directed some of the episodes. I’ve become a little obsessed with the whole phenomenon of Elena Ferrante screen adaptation.)

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LesLavandes · 01/01/2022 14:58

Is it in Prime or Netflix?

LiterallyKnowsBest · 01/01/2022 15:01

Netflix.

luckiestgirl · 01/01/2022 18:57

I couldn’t stop crying all the way through and found it really harrowing

SFisnotsimple · 01/01/2022 19:18

I found it exceptional. The way it captured the utter suffocation of mothering young children and deftly showed the husband pulling the "but my work is more important" and "I will take them to your parents" cards had me rooted to the spot (casting Warleggan was genius!).
It portrayed a woman in all her technicolour, a 3D non perfect human. Just never see this so such an important film I think. So clear it was written directed and acted by exceptional women.

Supersimkin2 · 01/01/2022 20:27

I like the way the men don’t matter much cos they don’t do anything that does matter.

OC and JB capture the love v loathe that is mothering in a zillion refreshing ways.

Ionlydomassiveones · 01/01/2022 23:16

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Drunkpanda · 02/01/2022 01:10

I can't tell if someone is actually going to be "lost" permanently and my nerves can't take missing child scenes any more! Might stop watching

LiterallyKnowsBest · 02/01/2022 01:13

Keep going!

Drunkpanda · 02/01/2022 01:15

Kiss her bloody finger!

SleepOhHowIMissYou · 02/01/2022 01:20

@Drunkpanda

I can't tell if someone is actually going to be "lost" permanently and my nerves can't take missing child scenes any more! Might stop watching
It's not actually about a lost child. Child goes missing at start and is found safe very quickly.

It's a film about the suffocating nature of motherhood and the pull between martyrdom and freedom/selfishness.

LiterallyKnowsBest · 02/01/2022 01:28

(We’ll need a Spoiler alert on this thread now!)

SleepOhHowIMissYou · 02/01/2022 07:56

@LiterallyKnowsBest

(We’ll need a Spoiler alert on this thread now!)
I don't see why. It's not a film about a missing child. People watching it hoping to see a murder mystery will be disappointed. It's a film about the pressures of motherhood and saying that doesn't give away any of the storyline.
LiterallyKnowsBest · 02/01/2022 08:26

My comment was not intended to provoke any hostile reaction!

The other thread on this film has a Spoiler warning in the title. It means posters can speak freely about everything that happened.

Discovering what the film is and is not about is part of the joy of watching it. I would hate to deprive anyone else of that discovery.

SleepOhHowIMissYou · 02/01/2022 10:28

@LiterallyKnowsBest

My comment was not intended to provoke any hostile reaction!

The other thread on this film has a Spoiler warning in the title. It means posters can speak freely about everything that happened.

Discovering what the film is and is not about is part of the joy of watching it. I would hate to deprive anyone else of that discovery.

Great, people who don't want to know this isn't a murder mystery can look at the other thread then.

Happy days!

mizu · 02/01/2022 16:29

Watched last night. Very thought provoking.

I've got 2 DDs now 17 and almost 16 and the relentless of 2 young children that was shown brought me to tears - as did the fact that she left as I never could have and never wanted to.

Olivia Coleman was brilliant, I mean she always is but in this she was formidable.

Love Maggie G too. Jessie Buckley was brilliant too.......and the young mum with the little girl.

Really enjoyed it StarStarStarStarStar

1000umbrellas · 02/01/2022 16:47

I think I would have preferred to know it wasn't a murder mystery; from the trailer I was expecting a pychological thriller and so when it didn't pan out that way I was like, what did I just watch?? I don't mind the occasional cerebral film but it's like when you're having a cup of tea and accidentally pick up and swig someone else's coffee. Even if you like coffee it tastes weird!

Drunkpanda · 02/01/2022 18:34

Sorry I think it was my question that led to some discord. I do avoid movies with dead children in them so it's good to know in advance - but not wanting it spoiled for anyone else.
I can't see any other thread on this movie, it doesn't appear in my list here. Or would have used that one.

Flowertailbird · 02/01/2022 18:41

Beautifully done. I loved it. Olivia Coleman is amazing.