Got aggressively mansplained r.e. my field

[Tygarolf]

Just been aggressively mansplained to about my field by a member of the public and he really fucked me off tbh. 😂

I don’t often deal with the public, my field is not customer service, I work in a STEM field, but I got brought in to help with a customer complaint and provide some expertise.

I can’t give many details as don’t want to be too outing but the customer aggressively ranted whilst listening to nothing I said, spouting conspiracy theories and things they’d read on Google and concluded that I was useless in my field or a liar, most likely a liar. Ok sir. 😂😂😂

He kept tell me that “you KNOW (insert conspiracy theory here” and after 20 mins of this I said “with all due respect don’t tell me what I know.” He didn’t like that! I ended the call shortly after as he wanted to Google conspiracy theories together to prove he was right. I don’t have the time in my day for this nonsense. 😂

He was so aggressive I feel he just wanted to be aggressive to someone? And felt he could because it’s work i am obviously not going to kick off back at him? I am so glad I don’t encounter people like this often.

Tell me your mansplaining stories.

Fantastic!

Well thank God for men eh? otherwise where would we be??!!!!!

Had a man explain menopause to me and that the Andropause is a real thing and just "the same". In the name of workplace inclusion, diversity, etc bollox.
I did try to be kind about it, but it didn't work. 🤷

I think we need a whole separate catgeory for trans women explaining womanhood to women and educating us on how we've been wrong all our lives about who we are and why what happens to us happens.

I have had this so often. I’m very senior now and when it happens in meetings, I have resorted to saying something along the lines of “fuck me, is there an echo in here?” Possibly without the swearing, sometimes with.

Oh for Christ's sake…how did you respond?

He seemed quite offended that I wasn't listening to his words of wisdom. He was lucky I didn't hit him with my menopausal rage! 😂

I believe men repeating a woman's idea is known as "he-peating".

My male boss used to do this a lot and I would always point it out, and he would say "sometimes you have to go the long way round to get back to the same place" Infuriating.

I had an interview obnoxious idiot mansplain sexual assault and rape to me. As someone who has been both sexually assaulted and raped, it didn’t go down well.

Same chap, another occasion, started on child neglect and abuse. His wife is a paediatric consultant at an inner city hospital that unfortunately sees neglect and abuse cases, well she knew nothing about it compared to him. He wasn’t having any of what she had to say.

Both incidents with racist and far right overtones as to ‘white men never rape’ etc etc

Sorry I don't see any mansplaining here.
Shop told you that they were booked up so you fitted the bulb yourself.
Well done, I can see why you were pleased, but not mansplaining at all.

@deydododatdodontdeydo because he automatically assumed that I needed a man to fit the bulb for me!

OMG I love her

It is if he wouldn't automatically assume a male customer would also want the bulb fitting.
He's probably basing his decision on his experience with customers, so likely it's neither, but impossible to know really.

I had child development mansplained to me by a father of two children. Each of these children had emotional challenges that needed support. But he of course knew more from being the non resident parent to these children than my years of training and experience afforded me

This one still makes me laugh every time I see it

I like this one too.

I was asked to cover a specific type of fitness class for a male colleague. I have done the same training as him, achieved the certification and know how to structure and deliver the class. Before the date of the cover, he kept inviting me along to his class 'to see how it's run', which I declined because I didn't have the time, didn't need to and didn't want to. He then kept messaging me with suggested formats and ideas for the class. Perhaps he is just a control freak rather than a sexist but it just irritated me- if you're going to ask me to cover you, you're going to have to trust that I can do the job properly (if not then ask someone else!)

I had a man mansplain how to eat spaghetti to me, how to wind it around the fork, like I was 5 years old 🤦🏻‍♀️

I loved this bit in the tourist (the clip is short) ]]

I was working with a small group of colleagues on updating something and made a suggestion that some information was now irrelevant and could be removed. Short discussion on this. Then up pipes our male trainee saying he thinks it's irrelevant and should be removed, in a 'I've had an idea' tone. It starts young.

Loved this idea of how to deal with it.

I worked in the motor trade as a service advisor for a main dealer when I was in my late teens.
I man came up to my desk and demanded to speak to a 'mechanic'
I asked him what the issue was and he said he needed to know what oil to put in his car (in the days before google) I asked him what car it was and told him what oil it takes- Back then I spent 7 hours a day working out invoices for car services and knew exactly which oil type was required for each model.
He was absolutely furious that he was expected to accept this information from me- a young woman in a mans domain, and again demanded to speak to a mechanic who would know what he was talking about.
One of the guys in the workshop had to come out to reception to explain to the guy that I was right- and he happily accepted the answer. Twat.

I also had a guy come in and buy new wiper blades for his car from the parts department, then come over to me and ask for a mechanic to fit them.
I told him that wouldn't be necessary, and popped outside in my heels and skirt and fitted them myself while he stood and watched.
I loved showing men up when I could 😂

@catlesslady Oh my word, I had almost the exact experience once and it infuriated me but I hadn't actually thought of it as mansplaining or sexism (I had a total wanker of a boss so I chalked it up to that) but I think you're right!

I work in communications and PR. I was in charge of preparing a briefing note for Very Big Cheese (VBC) ahead of Very Important Meeting with a Very Important Journalist (VIJ). There was an issue that I knew would be a problem and that VIJ would have an issue with. I had flagged this repeatedly to boss ahead of time in an attempt to get the issue resolved. He had made it clear he thought I was being ridiculous. I flagged it PROMINENTLY in the briefing note and told my boss we really needed to be sure that VBC was properly briefed so he could field the inevitable questions. It was implied that I was being hysterical and really didn't understand how these meetings worked (note, untill this boss had arrievd, I had run these meetings, including personally briefing VBC). I also ran all of the other similar meetings still at the slightly less VBC level.

Needless to say, VIJ's first question was on this issue. According to VIJ (who rang me as soon as meeting was over - before my boss even got back to the office), VBC was completely shocked the question was asked. So I assume my boss removed that part of the briefing when he sent it on becuase I was so hysterical. Also, apparently my boss immediately dropped me in it in the meeting. I was therefore prepared when he got back to our office and he came storming over. Apparently I had not made sufficient effort to raise the issue. Wanker.

More obvious mansplaining was the middle aged man telling me how I needed to really consider making an effort to get pregnant at a certain time of year in order to ensure my child was a Sept/Oct/Nov baby as that's better for their education. This was after we'd spent some time discussing the fact that we had fertility issues and that therefore getting pregnant at ALL was a problem. I honestly think he thought that I was making a bit of a fuss andn that if I just told my doctor I wanted to have an October baby, wham, it would happen.

I'll never forget Bloke in Pub who loudly and aggressively expounded his views on covid, its origins, how it is transmitted and possible cures. On and on and on. None of it credible, all of it from the Internet. Eventually he paused, and my friend leaned over and asked "What do you do, by the way? I deadpanned "I'm an epidemiologist."