Why was slut ”reclaimed”, but prude and frigid wasn’t?

[YouAreNotBatman]

And why is virgin shaming still okey?

They all are, just the opposite sides, of the misogynystic coin trying to control women’s choices.

I do see what you mean. Bitchy is sometimes used just for gossiping a bit or saying something a bit sarcastic. It's often aimed at gay men too, but I suppose that could still be an attack on behaviour seen as traditionally feminine.

Yes absolutely, I was going to raise the gay men point but thought I'd waffled enough!

We tend to use bitch for women and bastard for men. I don't think it's misandrist to call a man a bastard so it's not misogynist to call a nasty woman a bitch.

Of course it's not misandrist because a bastard was born from a woman that was a "slut" and got pregnant from a man she did not wed. It's not misandrist because it's another misogynist slur if you actually think about it.

Bitch is very much still sexist as it dehumanises women to a dog. A man can be a bitch because calling a man an inferior woman is still an insult, again misogynist.

Cunt, karen, attention whore, drama queen, bitch, slut, son of a bitch/whore, nancy boy, old hag, cow, fish, witch, terf, you throw like a girl, chick, douche (thing to clean a vagina) ...

The list is endless. And even insults for men are referring to women and demeaning them.

It's just gross and continuing to using slurs feels so wrong as a woman. On rare occasions i feel a "bitch" is in order but its so rare. I really don't want this so normalised because it affects us all.

"a bastard was born from a woman that was a "slut" and got pregnant from a man she did not wed."

And from a father who didn't marry the mother of his child.
In any case, if we call someone a bastard these days, we mean nasty man, not illegitimate. It's lost it's original meaning.
As I said, you can argue this with cunt too, but I'm still less comfortable with it, maybe because it's seen as the very worst insult for many people.