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Sex Strike

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Chewiebacca · 26/06/2022 20:45

I've been giggling with glee since I saw this pop up on my social media feed. Sex strike!

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10954353/Women-threaten-SEX-STRIKE-protest-SCOTUS-overturning-Roe-v-Wade.html

www.marca.com/en/lifestyle/celebrities/2022/06/26/62b78d4c22601d452a8b45b2.html

nypost.com/2022/06/25/abstinence-trends-on-twitter-in-wake-of-roe-v-wade-ruling/

Personally, I've decided to go on a sex strike, and it's going to last until abortion laws in the USA are fixed. Let's see how long men last without women serving their every whim and desire.

Anyone else joining me?

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User135644 · 26/06/2022 20:51

Does that include striking from platforms like Only Fans though or are they still happy to take their money?

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RagzRebooted · 26/06/2022 20:57

Isn't this what the puritanical, religious nuts want though? Women are being punished for our sexual freedom by having the choice of abortion taken away from us. Unless it's the wives of the men making the decisions going on sex strike then I don't think it will have much impact.

Also, I like sex!

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MolliciousIntent · 26/06/2022 20:58

I do not see any need to punish myself and my husband for the choices of the Supreme Court, and I do not see why they would care if I stopped putting out, so it seems completely pointless to me.

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deydododatdodontdeydo · 26/06/2022 21:52

The wives of the men making the decisions (and the woman making the decision) will not go on strike though since they support the action.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 26/06/2022 21:56

Let's see how long men last without women serving their every whim and desire.

If this is how your current relationship operates you’ve got problems closer to home than the American Supreme Court.

My sex life is nothing to do with you or American legislatures and my husband wants free legal abortion for every woman who wants it.

But you go ahead. See if it makes you happy.

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YouAreNotBatman · 26/06/2022 22:01

The comments from men whre, oh so lovely….
They really don’t care, do they? And they never will.

I think all women should go anti-male strike.
No dating, having sex, marrying men, taking men’s name, having babies - particularly boys.

I can’t believe women share their lives with men, how does one spend their life with someone who doesn’t even view you as a human?

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TyneTeas · 26/06/2022 22:02

Not quite the same but...

The day Iceland's women went on strike

www.bbc.com/news/magazine-34602822

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YouAreNotBatman · 26/06/2022 22:03

Although I think it is a very good idea, I would worry how angry men would get.
The violence againts girls and women would only get worse.

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FilePhoto · 26/06/2022 22:03

Not sure how me (in the UK) going on sex strike will make the US change their laws. not that I have sex anyway these days

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deydododatdodontdeydo · 26/06/2022 22:05

They really don’t care, do they? And they never will.

The majority of men, even in America, support availability of abortion, so what you say is clearly untrue.

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ComfyChairPose · 26/06/2022 22:06

I feel like the revenge needs to be some way of making men pay (financially)

Like the men making choice impossible, it's not like they'd be voting in favour of women being taxed less, paying less VAT, having cheaper rent, providing subsidised childcare, no, there's just absolute entitlement on the part of these old grey men that women buckle in for 18-22 years of both expense AND reduced freedom to earn.

I have no ideas though.

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Faircastle · 26/06/2022 22:11

I'm not clicking the links (especially the DM one) but wasn't this the premise of Lysistrata?

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Discovereads · 26/06/2022 22:16

Ugh. What a patriarchal view that sex is something men do to women and women are the gatekeepers. No, I absolutely refuse to do a sex strike. I happen to like sex as much as my DH does. I see no reason to give up sex and live like a nun.

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Precipice · 26/06/2022 23:57

It's not about sex being done to women - it's about how if there is no choice to abort an unwanted pregnancy and you do not want to have a child, it is sensible to avoid engaging in activity that risks pregnancy. There are other sex acts - and given how many women are engaging in sex where they don't orgasm, probably not that much would be lost to them.

The reasoning is not so much to convince the real anti-abortion hardliners - you won't, in any way - but to firstly protect yourself and to secondly, by means of a 'strike', to provide an actual direct incentive, a personal loss, to piss enough men off to also take a definite and active agitation for abortion rights, not only vague support

Obviously if you're not in a country where this applies, there's no point to it. No point a woman in the UK taking part in a sex strike for US women or Polish women or women under any other jurisdiction.

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FemmeNatal · 27/06/2022 00:05

Chewiebacca · 26/06/2022 20:45

I've been giggling with glee since I saw this pop up on my social media feed. Sex strike!

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10954353/Women-threaten-SEX-STRIKE-protest-SCOTUS-overturning-Roe-v-Wade.html

www.marca.com/en/lifestyle/celebrities/2022/06/26/62b78d4c22601d452a8b45b2.html

nypost.com/2022/06/25/abstinence-trends-on-twitter-in-wake-of-roe-v-wade-ruling/

Personally, I've decided to go on a sex strike, and it's going to last until abortion laws in the USA are fixed. Let's see how long men last without women serving their every whim and desire.

Anyone else joining me?

No. Why would I possibly punish my husband (and myself) for a decision in a country thousands of mikes away that we have nothing to do with?

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FemmeNatal · 27/06/2022 00:07

YouAreNotBatman · 26/06/2022 22:01

The comments from men whre, oh so lovely….
They really don’t care, do they? And they never will.

I think all women should go anti-male strike.
No dating, having sex, marrying men, taking men’s name, having babies - particularly boys.

I can’t believe women share their lives with men, how does one spend their life with someone who doesn’t even view you as a human?

Er, what? You think that no man views women as human?

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FemmeNatal · 27/06/2022 00:09

Precipice · 26/06/2022 23:57

It's not about sex being done to women - it's about how if there is no choice to abort an unwanted pregnancy and you do not want to have a child, it is sensible to avoid engaging in activity that risks pregnancy. There are other sex acts - and given how many women are engaging in sex where they don't orgasm, probably not that much would be lost to them.

The reasoning is not so much to convince the real anti-abortion hardliners - you won't, in any way - but to firstly protect yourself and to secondly, by means of a 'strike', to provide an actual direct incentive, a personal loss, to piss enough men off to also take a definite and active agitation for abortion rights, not only vague support

Obviously if you're not in a country where this applies, there's no point to it. No point a woman in the UK taking part in a sex strike for US women or Polish women or women under any other jurisdiction.

What do you mean no choice? Nothing’s changed in the UK (his is a U.K.-based site), are you confused here, and think that this ruling changes anything outside the US?

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UWhatNow · 27/06/2022 00:14

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Precipice · 27/06/2022 00:18

What do you mean no choice? Nothing’s changed in the UK (his is a U.K.-based site), are you confused here, and think that this ruling changes anything outside the US?

This is a UK-based site, but there are and have been threads here in the past focusing on events in other countries. Women who are not from the UK post here. I interpreted the discussion as being about the potential activities of
women in the US.

I addressed the uselessness of a sex strike in solidarity as a response to changes in other countries in my comment. I'm not sure what you think I'm confused about, because my comment in itself talks about how there is no need for UK women to engage in this. My post that you've quoted ended with this "Obviously if you're not in a country where this applies, there's no point to it. No point a woman in the UK taking part in a sex strike for US women or Polish women or women under any other jurisdiction." If that wasn't clear enough for you, I will rephrase - if you are not in a country where abortion rights are being limited in this way (e.g. you are in the UK), then there is no point in a sex strike as a response to the limitation of abortion rights (elsewhere, where you are not.) As an example, there is no point in a woman in the UK taking part in a sex strike for the rights of women in the US or the rights of women in Poland (both examples of jurisdictions with limitations on access to abortion).

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powershowerforanhour · 27/06/2022 00:21

Go for it, women of America! Safe in the knowledge that martial rape is a crime in all 50 states...for now....

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powershowerforanhour · 27/06/2022 00:22

*marital, not martial. Though rape in the military is also a (common) crime.

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Pyewhacket · 27/06/2022 00:22

Don’t be an idiot. How is anything we do in the UK going to influence the US Supreme Court. Besides, I enjoy sex and I’m not going to hang my boots up coz some Bible Belt dinosaurs have lost the plot. It’s for the Americans to sort out.

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KilmordenCastle · 27/06/2022 00:28

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Couldn't have said it better myself. I have sex because I want and enjoy sex. I would be punishing myself just as much as I'd be punishing my dh.

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ErrolTheDragon · 27/06/2022 00:37

Strikes do cost the striker though, don't they?

If I thought that in some way a sex strike could possibly overturn the US decision, then I'd hope I'd be willing to forego my own pleasure.

But it wouldn't, so there's not much point.

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YouAreNotBatman · 27/06/2022 05:48

FemmeNatal · 27/06/2022 00:07

Er, what? You think that no man views women as human?

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Honestly?
Pretty much, yeah.

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