This is going to be so outing but I don't care now. I need opinions as to whether I have a valid point here or if I'm in the wrong.
My DD is in y9. Today is non uniform day for CIN. When the non uniform day was announced the school sent home a long list of what the kids weren't allowed to wear. This list included things like leggings, ripped jeans, cropped tops, low cut tops, skirts, shorts. Very clearly this is aimed at the girls only and very clearly it's about objectifying their bodies. My DD told me that they are always told at school that they can't even show their ankles between their trousers and shoes to ensure the boys aren't distracted. This to me is absolutely ridiculous.
I'm of the opinion that a woman should be allowed to wear whatever she wants and it's more about being respected. This, to me, is skirting around the same lines as a rape victim being blamed that she was dressed provocatively. The list of
Now, obviously she is 13, and common sense tells me that I wouldn't want her going to school with her breasts showing or a skirt up to her bum but I don't see how ripped jeans or leggings is a problem.
I called the school out on this and the pastoral lead told me it was about "safety" not about their image. He claimed after a couple of years of rules and lockdown he wanted them to have a fun day with no rules yet sends out this list of rules. In one breath he said its not about sexualising the female students but in the next breath he says he doesn't feel comfortable with girls wearing leggings without an appropriate length top. When challenged on what an appropriate length top is he said it would have to cover their bums.
Today, to prove a point, my DD has gone in ripped jeans. She has been put in the segregated room for disruptive students and will stay their all day unless I take tights in to put under her jeans. Again, proves that it's about showing skin, not about safety, as the jeans will still be ripped even if she wears tights under them. She has refused and will stay in the isolation all day.
WWYD? Would you have the same opinion as me? I feel really strongly about this sexism but I'm doubting myself a bit and feel bad for DD being punished for this.
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