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DH really struggling

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bruffin · 05/07/2010 09:20

DH has long term stress/anxiety since he was a child due to bullying and dyslexia. He has been on sertraline for a few years, tried to cut back last year but has had to go back to 100g again.

We have a DD who is nearly 13 and DS who is nearly 15. They are really lovely children who really don't give us much trouble at the moment.
DS was bullied when he started secondary, so withdrew into himself for a while but in the last 6 months or so he has discovered a whole new bunch of friends and is having a very idyllic time ie Saturday a group of about 20 spent the day by the river, doing their own bbq, getting very wet etc and yesterday he had his first date.
DH is very happy for him and encourages him and is quite happy to run around after him to get him where he needs to be, most of his friends are not local. He and DS have a very good relationship. DS adores DH and tells him a lot. We get the odd grunty teenager, but on the whole he is a very open boy who has always been very mature for his age.

However it seems to be bringing back bad memories for DH and he realises what he thinks he never had. He has an excellent counsellor who he saw about 10 years ago and once recently. I am trying to persuade him to see her but he says we can't afford it, even thought we do have some medical cover that will cover half the fees.
He has cried twice in the last week, is that a good thing, ie letting his feelings out or just symptom of his anxiety?
I really not sure what to do to help him at the moment.

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Kaloki · 05/07/2010 21:18

So sorry you are both going through this.

Maybe, if he doesn't want to pay for a counsellor then make sure he has the Samaritans number to hand for when he is feeling really awful. There are really very good. However, if you can afford the help, maybe that would be best. Try reasoning with him my pointing out that if he had a physical illness then he'd go to a professional for it, and should treat this the same.

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