feeling sad

[bettybets]

My baby is 10 months old and i went back to work full time when she was 6 months old. Since she was born i've had my up and down days like you do, but at the moment i feel quite low/sad.

I'm fed up, i'm upset at the comments i get about working full time, 'they soon grow up and you cant get this time back' and 'they change everyday' it makes me feel sad and gulity that i have to work. I'm finding my baby such hard work at the minute, she crys alot more than she use to, i can't leave her in her cot as i get ready in the mornings she screams, she's very demanding.

I'm tired, drained, my relationship with my partner is suffering, i'm snappy, angry, arguementive.

I hate the place where i work, its a new job, i have no support, the staff are bitchy, they pull there face when i ask for help, they talk about me behind my back- which they do about everyone.

I just dont know what to do, dont know if its just the ups and downs of life, does every mother feel like this.

Betty, poor you. Tis hard enough going back to work, nevermind having to deal nightmare folk while you are there.

I really feel for you and so understand the feeling of guilt about leaving your baby.

BUT. Yes she is young now and she is growing, but she will not resent you one bit for going to work, and prob has a lovely time at her C/M/ nursery.

If you are like me you need to work, financially and emotionally .

Tis a VERY tiring time for all 3 of you. But it will get better and yes I think it is the 'ups and downs of life'. Bloody knackering, but it will get better.

BTW feel NO guilt for being a working mum. You are a better mother for it.

Thank u so much, its so nice to know other people are going through the same and its not me being a bad mother. I suppose its just a tough stage of our lives and it wont last forever :-)

It is tough betty. The worst point in my and DH's lives was when DS1 was about 10 month old (and we had been together 17 years by then!). DS had a near on nervous breakdown and we realised that life had changed forever because we had a child. It's a massive readjustment.

Hope things go OK for you, but don't blame yourself whatever you do. You are not a bad mother.

Hi betty, just to say that I really sypmathise with you. My ds is now 9 months old and I have been back at work since he was 4.5 mo old.

I think the worst thing is that my job is a bit pants at times and having that lovely bundle really highlights that I don't have a career I truly love, and that makes me sad too. But I like the fact that I work and ds does all kinds of stuff with all kinds of people (me, dh, my mum and nursery)

Ds is also going through a phase where he cries when you leave him (I generally just tell I'll be 2 minutes for evrything - obviously he has no sense of time lol - but I say it everytime before leaving him anyway!) it is really hard, but depending on what we are doing, we get nothing done.

very guiltily I am off week after next, but am going to keep ds in nursery for his 3 days, so I can have a bit of a break, and get stuff done around the house etc, maybe even a duvet day. Is this something you could do? Even if just for a couple of days? Think of it as recharge time?

And really don't underestimate how much tiredness can effect you. I mean really effect you. Are you able to get some lie ins, or go to bed early?