lonely in the hot weather

[misspennypincher]

The hot weather makes me feel really lonely because I can see and hear other people having fun whilst I am alone with my dd and dull partner.Anyone else struggle with the fine weather?

Yes, I always feel guilty for not organising such "fun things to do" and not "Socialising" with friends. Shouldnt we all be popping the wine corks, dragging out the bbq and rushing to the beach! Grabbing every moment of the lovely weather....pressure to enjoy...arhhhhh!

I have a construction site as a garden...I get fed up with not being able to let my toddler out. My hubby works constantly so Its usually me and two pre-school children.

You have other issues here and dull partner sayes it all.....Am I right that your relationship is dragging you down?

Yup I am sitting in my house alone and pregnant. It's a beautiful evening and I'm watching groups of people sitting outside and heading off out. My partner is away working for weeks on end and everyone else is busy having a social life or out with their partners. Have whole summer of lone pregnancy to look forward to!!

yes I have big relationship problems and feel stuck but I can't go into details.Wish I could be someone else.I know people who are constantly having a fun social life and in the summer it is all so more apparent.I don't know whats wrong with me.Feel like a complete outsider.Sorry to moan on.I feel like I have no more fight left in me.feel like disappearing

Sympathies. I do get out and about a lot with the kids but we're never invited anywhere. Others seem to have a social whirl of parties and BBQs and we go to maybe one party a year. I've given up trying now. I'd rather just enjoy being at home with family. But the kids are sociable and love parties and big lunches, so it's sad not to be more outgoing.

You can't make people like you, I guess. I realise (sounds self pitying but i don't feel it that way) that I am an outsider and so is OH and there are benefits to that too. The downside is that you don't fit in with the cliques. But i don't want to be in a clique anyway.

We can enjoy the sun without other people around. Kids are out eating lollies on the lawn and having waterfights and we're having a barbie for just the family tonight. It can get you down though, because I'm naturally quite outgoing but just don't fit in round here - or not enough to get invited out.

I'm feeling exactly like this today.

racingheart I could have written your post tbh. I am thankful that I have a lovely dp and 2 lovely dds, obviously I am.

(my 2 year old dd chased her big sister with the hose lol)

In answer to the op, some times of year/circumstances can make people feel more lonely. Another peak time for me is the bit between Christmas and New Year.

And little things like people saying they met a friend for coffee etc, when I don't really do that.

I only have one dd and so she has no one to play with and it is really hard because she can hear all the neighbourhood children playing and having fun and she is stuck with us.So she ends up watching alot of tv sadly.When I was a child I played out all the time but round here the children are confined to their gardens and my dd is never invited in.I find it unbearably sad but at least she has us I suppose and things could be worse.I just hate to hear how lonely she feels knowing there is nothing I can do about it.I will be so relieved when she is old enough to arrange her own social life!

Just found this thread. I feel exactly the same. We hardly ever get invited anywhere. Ok, last weekend we did go to a friend's bbq, but that was probably only our second bbq in 4 years since living around here.

I completely relate to your posts racingheart. I am quite outgoing too and like company (but not all the time) and find it really hard to always be at home with DH and the DC's. DD is also very sociable and loves company and I feel so sad for her that she hardly ever gets invited for playdates. We have had so many of her friends to our place, so many times, but she very rarely gets invited back and I know it's because I am not part of the mums' clique at school.

It was really upsetting me and getting to me for a long time. I have just today decided to sod them all. If those mums are rude enough to accept our invitations to come here and never once invite DD back to theirs then they are not worth knowing. And it is a church school as well. I have never come across such 'unchristian' people before. They should be ashamed of themselves the lot of them.

Sorry, rant over.

I think that the problem with the clique it happens everywhere. However, if your giving negative vibes it may be frightening them off. You know what its like when you are happy with a bunch of people you dont ask anyone else in do you?

I remember going to my sons nursery every morning for 3 years and hardly any of them lifted their heads up to say "Good Morning" then all of a sudden I broke the ice, I forced myself in - started talking, making an interest in their children, going on trips etc and now I have quite a few friends.

Why dont you make the play dates with the mums? If your feeling confident hold a charity coffee morning - that'll bring them in.

My son is starting church school in september and am I not letting anyone be-little me. I had it for 3 years and not anymore.

When I was in school I was never popular either, I never belonged in anyones group...I think its sad as I never had that friendship that others have which leads to life long friendships. But then I didnt make enough effort, I wanted to be a little unique. I see my parents werent a great help either.

Get your children joining groups, there must be lovely sunday schools, gymnastics, blar blar.