I want to put my dsis in a tin container and kick it very hard

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DD is driving me mad I feel sick at the thought of dealing with another tantrum later so I was talking to dsis who has no children but is a better parent than me .
Her answer to my problems is "send her to live with me for a week I will sort her out"

FFS she has SN and lots of anger issues you can't sort her out I have told you many times you can't fucking fix her so she fits in neatly with your version of a normal child.

Rant over.

not surprised you're
hope she doesnt ever have children

Take her up on the offer and have a break for a week

urgh, i wouldnt send my DCs to someone who had a plan to sort them out

I am just why does she think that she will somehow magically make dd behave?

No I wouldn't either.
It makes me laugh she took them out for three hours in the holidays and was pale when she fetched them back .

Say to her 'alright then I'll drop her off tomorrow' and watch her face fall.

Parenting is easy when you haven't got kids.

Yanbu to be upset OP

SPB,"hope she doesnt ever have children" a bit mean isn'it? Most of us were better parents before we had children because we had no idea how hard it actually was. Wishing her to never have children because she thinks she knows it all is a bit OTT.

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hope she doesnt ever have children'

what a lovely thing to say about someone you've never met

op - maybe it was her cackhanded way of offering help?
You could have said 'a week is a but too long but how about babysitting next weekend in the afternoon'

waits to be told I don't know the full story

Oh I know how you feel. sometimes the dread of the inevitable tantrum is even worse than the actual tantrum. DD2 has SN and has even worse tantrums at 5 than she did at age 2.

It enrages me when people seem to assume that she'd be better behaved if I was doing things differently

OK, yes that was worded badly sorry
I hope if/when she has children she doesn't see them as problems to be solved, or to be "sorted out"

I'm not getting into a row.
She is bossy and over bearing but is also my dsis and I love her.
She grates on me badly when she tries to tell me how to parent.
It is not her way of trying to help it is her way of saying
"Oh look poor old CWWM can't cope with dd ,I'll have to step in and take over and show her how it's done".

It is the same with my ds if he is ever in a bad mood or has been naughty it is not his fault according to her it is because he is the only boy in the house .

she does sound a pain

maybe ring someone else when you're feeling fed up?

If you don't tell her about stuff she won't be able to pee you off with her responses

that's how I deal with my sister