am I in shock or over reacting?

[amummyinwaiting]

This weekend I was on a coach (only one on it other than driver)when a man threw himself off a bridge and killed himself infront of us-we were stuck there with him lieing infront of us dead.
I managed to function fo the rest of the day as normal but then from saturday night I just havent managed to stop crying.
I'm thinking of all the things that have gone wrong in the past 6 months (husband losing job,crap time at work, worried about a friend)and keep thinking of this man and just feel so miserable like theirs just nothing to look forward too.
I dont know what to do dh being lovely but feel so alone,pushing him away.
Am I over reacting?
What should I do?

You are in shock.

That is one hell of a thing to witness and you can't underestimate its impact upon you.

Death, regardless of who it is, can pull out all kinds of thoughts and emotions from all corners and times of your life.

I'd give yourself some time to 'grieve' for this man and his loss. Then, if after a few days, you find you can't get it into perspective you could think about the next step.

This is a major thing to witness. Don't expect to feel ok quickly.

HTH xxx.

Do try to explain just what you have said here to your DH. That way he will be able to give you some breathing space.

My last post was so matter of fact I didn't mean it to sound that way! I am truly sorry you've witness this.

Would expect there is a feeling of 'responsibility' too..........you being there when he died. Maybe the Police could pass on a card of condolence from you to his family. It might give you a feeling of closure.

I agree you are in shock.

Something similar happened to DH (man set himself on fire on motorway) and DH suffered bad dreams and sleepless nights for a while. He is not someone who opens up a lot but I encouraged him to talk about it and he then kept on talking about it for a good few weeks. He seemed to need to iyswim, but not at first, at first he seemed shell shocked.

Talk to your DH, anyone.

Thank you both for your quick relpies.
I dont think it helps that I'm on my own today but just dont feel like seeing anyone.
He just lay there and their was blood and everything but at the same time I felt really distant from it.
DH was lovely last night and keeps phoninh me to check on me but just feel so...dark.
Frumpygrumpy you didnt sound bad in first msg!Do you reall yhink its somthing to bother drs with?

poor you how awful.

Is there anyway you can get in touch with the coach driver? He is probably going through a similar thing, and it may help you both to talk about it?

It would be normal to feel really shocked, numb, distant, upset about this for a while. Nightmares and flashbacks too. Often when you allow yourself time to talk about it it will get less after about 6 weeks at the most. If you are still feeling like you can't function after this time it is time to talk to your GP.

How you feel is totally normal and you are not overreacting.

You could call Cruse - it is free and you don't need a GP referral. I used them and now feel much better. The memory won't fade but the pain should. Talking always helps so, talk to your DH if you can.

thank you everyone.
I dont think it helped that I was on my own today so I've dwelt on it a lot.
tinkle- thank you, I might well get intouch with them if,like everyone has said i havent started to feel better soon.
get down- I dont know if the coach driver was in shock too but he just seemed so blase about the whole thing.
Thank you all so much.

How's today? Any different?