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Its all up in the air again.

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SirBoobAlot · 22/04/2010 22:51

I don't know what's happening. I feel okay - but there is this overhanging horror and darkness that is threatening me; the calm before the storm, if you will. I feel like its all building up, and soon it will all crash down.

A few weeks ago, I realised I hadn't taken my medication for a week. And I felt okay, so I carried on not taking it. Right now, knowing its all there in the cupboard, the thought is that I could just take them all. But at the same time I don't feel desperate, or even particularly suicidal. Not more than normal, at least; I just keep thinking about taking them.

All the mistakes I have made, all the little slip ups, they are coming back and growing into one huge mountain of mistakes. This mountain is huge. Its so high I cannot see the top of it through the clouds. Everything I have ever done. I want forgiveness.

This is such a self absorbed post. I know it is (count the "I"s. Its terrible, no?), and I ask your forgiveness for that as you read this.

Must keep a smile in place,
Must keep running the rat race;
Is this endless cycle never broken?
Are the truest of words never spoken.

Its more the heart that beats in time, that,
Once more,
Laughing oh so sweet,
Tickles the fancy of Its All Fine.
Fine?
Fine!
Fine.

The blood that split, the walls that built,
Block out, block out;
The cold hard metal, on the skin in a cold hard world.
A colourful soul in a black and white room,
Or a black and white sight of a colourful eternity?

Cherry blossom dancing in the breeze,
Dance on, dance on, bright amongst the greening leaves.
A pattern of hope on a plain old blanket?
Or a thorn in the perfect bouquet of flowers?
Pain or beautiful, help or hinder.
Its all the same.

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Nemofish · 22/04/2010 23:07

Aww, Boob.

You felt fine

So you forgot to take your medication - probably cos you felt fine.

Now you feel awful cos it is working it's way out of your system.

Can you start again at same dosage, or should you go see your GP before you start taking it again.

I ahve no problem with you 'self indulgent' post, tis fine honestly.

You don't need forgiveness externally, you need for you to be okay for you, for you to feel not guilty and not in the wrong.

I used to batter myself senseless (mentally) for any tiny mistake. Then in counselling I realised what a fucking mess most people make of their lives, without ever trying to make it better or help themselves, and I knew then that I was ok. You are too.

willsurvivethis · 22/04/2010 23:33

SirBoobalot you're doing great.

It's frustrating but natural to have a patch like this.

Do you know untaken tablets quite like a swim in the loo? Stops you worrying about them feeling lonely

BeckyBendyLegs · 23/04/2010 06:57

SirBoob I love your poem. You will be ok, I know you will, you are a really strong person.

LittleMarshmallow · 23/04/2010 07:21

SirBoobAlot Your poem is lovely. You have come through so much. It isn't about other people but in order to get better it is about you, and forgiving yourself for things you think you did wrong.

SirBoobAlot · 23/04/2010 10:00

Trying really hard to hold it together today. I don't feel down. Just so numb. In the past hour I have found myself laughing hysterically and crying desperately, and feeling nothing in connection or reaction to either. What is the point?

Keeping smiling - have to for everyone else. But all these God-damned memories, and thoughts, and pains. The childish part of me is desperate to scream "Its not fair!". The responsible adult part of me is glaring at myself and telling me to get a grip.

I don't want to eat. But I know I need to. Same as not wanting to wake up, I guess...

Wake up, struggle through the day, attempt to sleep, finally drift off in the early hours of the morning. Repeat.

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LittleMarshmallow · 23/04/2010 12:14

I am sorry you are having a rubbish day. It is exhausting trying to ensure people think you are fine. I have stopped focusing on having good days and at the moment if I suceed to have a good hour to me that is success I can build from. Keep talking as it does help

SirBoobAlot · 23/04/2010 13:14

Sorry for talking crap. I feel a little better at the moment - keeping busy. Off to DPs now. Hoping for a good afternoon. Thanks everyone x

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Nemofish · 23/04/2010 14:32

Just wanted to say - I think it's important to acknowledge that actually it's not fair. Once I admitted this, and let myself 'catalogue' all the shite, that wasn't my fault and wasn't fair, only then was I able to move on.

I have read too many self help books - I sound like Dr Phil

SirBoobAlot · 25/04/2010 20:27

Thanks Nemo I had a good weekend, and spoke to DP a little of how I've been feeling. He called me a silly cow and gave me a huge hug (and bought me the biggest box of chocolates I have ever seen in my life!) and am feeling a little better.

I felt like I was letting him and DS down by not working and not studying, because I'm too ill. The reassurance that I'm not, and that there is no pressure to rush into attempting to work or study before I am sure I am ready to meant so much, and although I still feel very messed up, its like a huge weight has been lifted, enough to cope with everything else for now.

Just got to take it a day at a time I guess...

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BeckyBendyLegs · 25/04/2010 20:31

One day at a time is the way to go. If you were on 'maternity leave' you'd still be off work so don't rush into studying or working yet. Enjoy your DS and take it easy for now.

That's so lovely of your DP

LittleMarshmallow · 25/04/2010 21:18

Def second the take one day at a time. I am jealous your dp gave you chocolates but he sounds so sweet.

SirBoobAlot · 25/04/2010 21:53

He has his faults (don't we all!) but I am so very lucky to have him... He gets me, and he takes the best care of both DS and I. Especially considering everything he is going through himself at the moment (he lost his Dad just over a month ago ) he has been so brilliant. But enough gushing - he is on here too and I'd had to inflate his ego any further

BBL thanks, that's a good point. Its just that its been two and a bit years of being ill now, and its so frustrating. DP was saying its a case of readjusting my boundaries, because, as I said, its a simple case of that I am no longer capable of doing what I was before the M.E. But that still is a bugger to deal with.

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