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Something odd happened to me in group therapy, can anyone offer thoughts?

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grapeandlemon · 19/04/2010 18:22

I am a regular poster - name changed because of the nature of my post and identification myself and others.

I go to group sessions and a 1:1 psychiatrist for anxiety, OCD, and other issues. It has been going well but the whole group thing is very new to me. I am in a very vulnerable state of mind currently.

At the last session there was a guy who talked for a long time and was very open about his quite extreme difficulties. He was obviously having a very awful time and I felt for him and I felt he was trying to reach out to me and picking up on things I said.

I am not explaining this very well, but whenever I said something he would ask me lots of questions and really make a connection and gave me lots of attention. I suppose this can sometimes happen is a group session but it is all a bit new to me and it felt like he was, well coming onto me really.

Lastly I talked a bit about the lack of affection I had in my life and when we finished the group and said our goodbyes he came up to me and asked for a cuddle. I stupidly said ok fine and it has actually completely messed with my head and I can't stop thinking and obsessing about the whole thing and seeing him again at the next session. The way he hugged me was really intense I can't stop thinking about it. Why did I say yes??? He just caught me at a moment I suppose...I don't know.

I really didn't anticipate feeling like this when I am actually trying to get well mentally. What do you think I should do?

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 19/04/2010 18:24

Speak to the person running the group?

He could be totally genuine but if you feel uncomfortable it doesn't really matter why or what his motives are, it is about you.

MrsMargate · 19/04/2010 18:34

yyy speak to teh person running hte group.

I would be uncomfortable with the questioning.

topsi · 19/04/2010 19:52

Oh I would hate that. Talk to the person running the group before your next meeting. As difficult as it may seem it is probably something you should bring up in front of the rest of the group as well. He probably has issues with this kind of thing and it may do him a favour to hear honestly that it made you feel uncomfortable. Good luck.

willsurvivethis · 19/04/2010 20:12

what the others have said

plus

do not feel you should be ok with being touched just because you said yes at the time. He should not have done this, probably knew you were new and he caught you on the hop when you were vulnerable.

grapeandlemon · 19/04/2010 20:22

Thank you all - sorry I have been doing bedtime.

My first thought he was playing mind games a little, he was v charismatic but yes, it felt wrong and I am very cross with myself for not saying er no why do you want to hug me?? but part of this is why I am in the hospital in the first place iyswim!
Thanks again I will mention it to the therapist

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