Any advice?

[fedupandgrumpy]

Have name changed for this but I am a fairly regular mnetter albeit mostly a lurker. I am a SAHM to 3 (9, 6 and 2)and am totally and utterly fed up with life. I shout, nag, moan at my kids all the time and they barely get a kind word. I am starting to think this is neither healthy or normal

I spend far too long on the computer during the day and the youngest spends most of her time pottering around watching tv until the other 2 come home when they do much the same until dh gets in when they all flock to him demanding games of football etc etc.

I really want to find some oomph and be a fun mummy but just cannot seem to drag myself out of this totally fed up state I am in. I hated the holidays as the other 2 were here all day and all I seemed to do was shout, grumble etc etc.

DH is self employed and works long hours and money is tighter than a tight thing. I get a lot of tax credits and would lose all that if I worked so its not really an option.

Am starting to think I might be depressed.

Sorry to be so self indulgent but how do I get out of this fug? Any words of wisdom/boots up the arse?

I can totally understand where you are coming from fedup, you sound exactly like me a couple of years ago (I still feel like that occasionally tbh). My dp was self employed and has always worked long hours. I used to hate weekends, and quite often would wake up and count the hours til bedtime.

I have found it better since my dcs started school (they are 8,6 and 4) as I have to get out of the house. I think making yourself get out and do things helps, the more you sit around the less you feel like doing. Are there any groups you can go to with the youngest, or just get yourself out to the park?

Do you have any interests that you enjoy? Something just for you, so you don't just feel like mum.

If you think you are depressed, a chat with your gp is probably a good idea

You don't sound self indulgent at all- I think most mums have felt like this at some point

sorry you feel bad

hokey cokey gradually increase your activity level by walking,take 2yo.exercise good for both of you.

nutrition, eat well.get kids to help you blend smoothies etc make it fun activity

basically lose the internet habit get out more.look for local activities eg play groups,reading at library etc. can you go soft play or something.

see your gp if you are concerned about your mood and health.no online diagnostics or guessing can replace a face to face assessment and chance to talk.if you struggle to articulate it,write it down
has anything changed for you?any recent stressful events or health changes

good luck

and things dont change immediately.so take it easy.and if you do get AD then give then adequate time to work

Thanks both, my first mumsnet foray today Ditching the internet is defintely the way forward I think. I have had a couple of bereavements recently, one was my friend and the other my best friend's baby, so it has been a stressful year. I think I by pi$$ing about on here it is helping me avoid thinking about it all. Today is the start, thanks again