Who do you talk to?

[BattyKoda]

I feel like I have no one to talk to.

I've never been close to my (very small) family and I have never been able to talk to them about any of my problems.

I have moved away from my home town so I have lost touch with alot of my old friends, only the odd catch up, which is always light hearted. I've made friends here, but not close friends, mainly just other mum's with DC's the same age.

Me and DP are argueing and avoiding each other.

My best friend has alot on at the moment.

I feel like I have no one. I have so much going on at the moment. I can't stop crying and there's no one to make it better

Do you find it difficult to talk about what you are going through? Worried about rejection?

I have one good friendship that became a very close one when I reluctantly started to open up about what I was going through and this friend responded really well and is just there whenever, listening but also telling me straight if I need it. I have more good friends that I can talk to, butmore in an edited version IYSWIM.

I have a fab dh but he has MH issues of his own and the cause of my problems (sexual abuse) means I can find it hard to tell him - I spend more time looking after him.

I just don't feel like I can, my friends here are all 'mum' friends so I only ever really see them with the DC's.

I can't talk to my family, just can't.

Really feel like everything is against me at the moment and I don't know how I'm going to get through it.

I didn't want to let this post go unanswered. I can only speak for myself: you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find someone you can talk to.

I have found that you have to take a few risks. In order to foster closeness with other people I had to admit my own vulnerability. In doing so you allow other people in and that is risky because you don't always get the reaction you want or need. That's not the other person's fault, they just aren't the right person for you.

When feeling as low as you sound this isn't easy to do.

Perhaps you could consider some sort of semi official listening ear.

Like the Smaritans barley? Had considered that this morning when I broke down about my online shopping. I'm not sure I could speak to a complete stranger though.

The point about the Samaritans is that they are strangers. Before MN and computers, yes I am that old, there weren't many places you could talk anonymously like this.

I only suggested speaking to a stranger because, as I said, when you are feeling low it feels even more difficult make overtures to RL acquaintances.

I know what you mean Batty it can be hard to find really close friends, friends that you can really open up to.

I had one friend that I could really say how I was feeling to but we moved away and are now only distantly in touch.

My "best" friend here in our new town (we've been here 5 years now) is a very "together" solutions kind of a person i.e. if you've got a problem, she tries to offer a solution rather than just listening or offering sympathy.

I find that quite frustrating. Sometimes problems aren't that easily fixed, you just need someone to talk to about it to help you feel better.

Hopefully you will find some good listening ears here on MN.

I was put off MN for a while after someone was very rude to me on AIBU. I stay off that page now and mostly just lurk around here where people seem very kind and lovely.
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