If you're having a bad time, how do you want others to behave?

[PrettyCandles]

Say you're depressed, and having a bad day: bursting into tears for no apparent reason, or flying off the handle, or walking out on situations. How do you want the others around you to behave?

Do you want them to ignore and just continue as if nothing had happened?

Do you want some sort of acknowledgement of your behaviour or feelings?

Or do you want something else?

Depends who they are. If I am in the depths of a depression, I need DH to acknowledge it and help make things as easy for me as possible.

I don't tend to let many people know at all so I suppose that if someone suspected, I would probably want them to treat me like they do normally, but secretly I would like it if someone did try and ask if there was something wrong.

I am completely unreasonable at these times, I know I am. If DH ignores me, I assume he doesn't care and get even more angry. If he questions it, I get angry at him for not leaving me alone.

He really can't win.

Now, I take myself away from everyone when I'm in a bad mood. Therefore only I am responsible for any contact/lack of contact and I find it stops me getting angrier at DH for his reaction/lack of reaction.

But you can't always take yourself away from the situation. Even if you could bring yourself to walk away calmly.

The trouble with bein asked, though, is that there is rarely anything wrong, really. Yes, some little thing could be wrong, but it shouldn't have such an effect. So, no, there isn't anytghing wrong really.

This is a good question. Not that I have an answer. I think usually I just want a cuddle, and to wait until I'm feeling calmer or more reasonable or at least less hormonal to talk about it.

I want DH and a few safe friends to know something's wrong and keep asking me until I can tell them (need to be convinced they really want to know) - and then give me lots of hugs and hold me until I feel safe and steady again.

I want the rest of the world to not notice. I do hide it well usually.

I'm a strange one on this, when i'm really bad i dont want anyone making a fuss, when i first got diagnised with deppression and went on AD'S my mum was so helpful and kept calling making sure i was ok and i hated it, i think that if no one makes a fuss then im ok and i dont have to think about it and it's not happening because if someone worrys me it makes me worse thinking "god if there worried i must be ill"

BUTTTTT when im ok and i mention my deppression and it gets shrugged off like hubby saying your fine your not deppressed it annoys me lol i cant win ha ha.