Do I ring my Carer Support Worker, his CPN or CATTS

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A bit concerned (well not concerned, not sure what the word is I'm looking for) about XH, rang him last night to arrange to go and pick up some more of my stuff this morning.

He told me he'd be in until 11.30 and then he'd be going out to do his voluteering at the hospital (the pyschiatric one where he was last September), this is a regular thing he's now doing every Friday and so wasn't news to me.

Rang this morning (as agreed) just before I went round and he rather strangely asked me if I'd got someone looking after the DS's (well it didn't feel strange at the time - it just sounded like him being a twit..........2 of them are at school).

Got there (with BitterandTwister from here) and I thought I could smell alcohol on his breath, but wasn't 100% certain, he was still dressed up (I'd say he was out last night) so it could have been from drinking the small hours of the morning as it was only 10.15

But there was a (fairly full) bottle of WKD on the floor in front of a woman (I'm still debating whether it was him or his mate whos moved in who got laid last night), and a reasonably full glass of wine (?) on the computer desk.

It didn't look like it was left over from a late night drinking session iykwim, as everthing else was tidy, and a late night drinking session at home I would have expected more than just the current drinking receptacles.

Anyhow, we got the stuff and left. At about 12.50 my phone rang, and it was the bloke from the hospital volunteer team asking to speak to XH (obviously he's forgotten to change the number - I brought my account here with me), I said I thought he was going up there today, and bloke said that that's why he was ringing as he hadn't showed up.

So, I don't know if he was drinking at 10.15 in the morning, I don't know that he simply genuinely forgot to go (although like I said he did mention it last night to me and before I moved out he never forgot to go up at any point), but do feel I ought to let someone involved with his care know.....

Not sure it's an "emergency" (ie CATTS), and not sure whether to speak to my carer support worker (she's not actually anymore as I'm no longer "caring" for him, but we haven't yet arranged to meet up to finish of her role), or whether to ring and speak to his CPN

Sorry if this is a dumb question but do you need to do anything? Do you still feel responsible?

well he is the DS's dad.....and there is no-one else that would even think to call his CPN/CATTS about him, I'm not sure his "mates" even know anything at all about him being ill.

It doesn't sound like an emergency.

If it was me I'd probably phone his CPN. Otherwise it'll be second hand information via the carers worker.

As you say, you don't know anything for sure but it will flag up to them that there might be a problem and they can make their own assessment of this.

I have phoned my friend's cpn in the past when worried about her and they have always thanked me for doing so, but obviously they won't discuss anything with you as it is confidential.

actually - meant to update as well.

A little after I posted I tried to ring my CSW to find she's on annual leave, and have discovered that I don't actually have his CPN's number (I'm sure I used to ).

I've never known him to not turn up to things he's supposed to be at (work/volunteering), was one way that no-one suspected anything was wrong with him in the first place, it didn't affect his work (before he lost his job for entirely different reasons).

I think I may just leave it for now, but make an excuse to ring later - actually have discoverd that DS1's picture wasn't in the pile of stuff that he put in the hallway so want to make sure that's "safe" anyhow. And mention the OT/Volunteer bloke ringing to ask for him and see what his response is.

I do worry, I suspected (slightly) that he was unwell last year, but never paid heed to it properly and would feel absolutely AWFUL if something happened again because I hadn't said something when I had some worries (that may be completely unfounded of course)

You could phone his gp as well.