If half the battle with getting well is wanting to help yourself

[FabIsDoingPrettyWell]

What do you do when you don't want too?

I want to just give up. Ideally I would have a good few days away on my own but that isn't going to happen.

Should be a happy day today - dcs birthday - and I just feel out of place in my own family.

Sorry to hear this Fab.

Can you get some time out for yourself? Even if an hour or so to go for a walk?

I will have a few hours later when the kids are at school but I will be in the house preparing the birthday tea. Going for a walk will just give me time to think and I really don't need that.

Thanks for the support.

Hi,
I hope your day is going ok, it sounds like it's a difficult day for you especially as you feel so detached. I've learnt recently when I feel really down is to acknowledge I'm depressed and then just try and do the minimum I can cope with to get through, go to bed early and hope for a better start in the morning. I don't know what to do if you don't want to help yourself, it sounds like you just need to give yourself any break you can get if going away isn't an option.

Hi Fab, you don't know me but I've seen quite a few of your posts. Am so sorry you are really going through it at the moment.

I just wondered if I might recommend a book?

It is about Freeing yourself from chronic unhappiness

naitimum reminded me of it when she talked about acknowledging your feelings.

The book helps you accept yourself, taking you away from the "doing mode" - must do this, that and the other to the "being mode" - much more healthy way of looking at things.

I hope this helps x

Thanks all. You must be so sick me always moaning.

Not at all. xx

Thanks.

I am really tired and not looking forward to my pil coming later. They take over and I can't deal with it.

Shove the kids at PIL if they want to take over. You can go upstairs and have a lie down!

I am tempted too and I have primed dh that I want them gone at 6 or they can stay but I want to go upstairs if I need too and he agrees they should go then. The kids need to get to bed - my youngest was up very early - and the pil get them too excited.

I feel he is more hers than mine and that is very hard.

who is more whose? Your DH or your DS?

Either way, it sounds a nightmare. In-laws can be so unhelpful.

I would strongly recommend coming over with a headache and retiring upstairs.

DH can deal with them - they are his parents after all.

My ds.

I don't want to spoil Ds's birthday. MIL spoilt it a couple of years ago by bringing a letter from my mother. I found it very hard to be civil and so didn't talk to mil again that day.

I'm sure you wouldn't spoil his birthday. Can you just keep a low profile and avoid PILs? Will there be friends there that you can chat to instead?

I will keep a low profile and mil will think I am attention seeking whereas if that was the case I would be telling her what is causing me to feel . Pil will harrass me and not get the hint I don't want to talk.

DS has 2 friends coming so that will help as PIL won't be able to monopolise DS.