Can we talk antenatal depression? Guidance needed.

[kittyonthebeam]

Having posted on various issues since falling pregnant I followed a few threads and looked at somewebsites to confirm what I have been dreading. I think I suffer from antenatal depression. I was rated 26 points on the black dog institute test and other checklists seem to confirm this picture. I don't know how I got there, I was alsways so vivacious and energetic.

I am now suffering from something close to hyperemesis (even throwing up water), sleeplessness (anxiety before going to bed), exhaustion, mental burn out, feeling cold, cannot think straight, no pleasure in anything, vegging around all day long and unable to cope looking after my dd (16 mths). I have a helper in the house who's great with her and allows me to rest but I am so that I am so useless.

On top of all my SPD has raised it's ugly head and I am in a lot of pain, crouching as I walk. I feel like I don't want this pregnancy anymore, I have thought of abortion. I am 9 weeks along and cannot see how I'm going to make it through the next 31 weeks.

My Dh calls me a miserable cow who doesn't fancy doing anything and has no interest in sex. He at times tries to be kind making brekkie but he's despairing at my lethargy and 'laziness'.

I have called the doc's nurse to make an appointment but could be another week before I see her.

We're not in the UK but abroad. Please advise me what I should do, I feel so helpless.

No wonder you feel low, you must be exhausted if you are being so sick. If you are unable to keep water down then I do think you should try and see the Dr sooner than a week.
If you are dehydrated from being sick then that could be one reason for you tiredness. Maybe if the Dr could get the sickness under control you would start to have a little more energy.
I tell you, men never can understand how it feels to be pregnant and how exhausting it can be. His comments are hardly going to make you feel better are they?
Tiredness can often be confused with depression so don't scare yourself!
Try and see Dr asap I think

Thank you Topsi. I am starting to feel faint and I think you're right re the lack of hydration. I have made sure my dd will be looked after tom and will drive to the clinic and wait there UNTIL I get to see the doctor/nurse. I haven't kept food or water down for nearly 36h so I'm desperate.

36 hours ! you sure you don't need to be seen earlier ? don't you have an out of hours Dr? you must feel dreadful x

keep in mind that this awful first stage should start to lift around 12 to 15 weeks and the rest of your pregnancy should not be as bad. i really hope you start to feel better soon x

i have just come back from hospital, was on a drip and in care all day due to dehydration. i have food poisoning. yuck. such bad cramps i was writhing in pain. i am now at home but in bed and still can't eat but drank some sprite.

i mentioned my thoughts to the doctor and she said it's probably 'just' the physical pain of illness and being tired but she will see me next week and can refer me should i wish to talk to someone. i think i will do that. i have never settled here and feel very lonely.

the baby was moving, now with arms and legs! i hope bubs will be fine despite my illness. they've taken bloods and stool sample so will know what it was.

Thank you for your kind words.

glad to see you have been seen and diagnosed, you would have been feeling realy low in energy if you have a tummy bug.
I am sure the baby ill be fine and you will feel better soon.
Let us know how you are getting on

Thank you topsi. I will. x