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Need to keep talking

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memoo · 18/02/2010 12:12

Thought I'd come over here rather than keep talking in aibu, Feels a bit safer over here!

Just a big thanks to everyone really.

DH has had to go back to work today so its just me and the baby. My other two children have gone to stay with my parents for the week. Its very unusual for my parents to have them as they live a few hours away. They have a cottage on a farm in the middle of cumbria so the kids are having a fab time.

The meds must be working as I'm definately feeling a lot calmer, could still go either way though I guess so I'm just taking it one day at a time and today I'm doing Ok.

Still can't bring myself to leave the house and for some reason I'm feel so uncomfortable with the curtains open, like everybody is looking in, so I haven't opened them in days!

On a positive note I am showered and dressed. DD is happy, feeding well, and just generally a little ball of happiness at the moment. She is a pleasure to have around. Maks me feel like I am at least getting somethings right.

Can't organise my head enough to get any housework done but DH has been taking care of most of it anyway.

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Shitemum · 18/02/2010 12:20

That's great, keep talking.
If you have a garden maybe you could go out in it for a little while with DD if you can't cope with the idea of a walk in the street yet?
Best of luck.

acebaby · 18/02/2010 12:31

Memoo - I posted on your original thread and have been thinking of you. It sounds like you are coping well today. It is lovely that through everything, you are able to enjoy your baby.

Being without your DH is a big step and you're doing splendidly. Keep posting... all your new mn friends are thinking of you

acebaby · 18/02/2010 12:37

PS - don't worry about the housework !! Just move from room to room if the mess bothers you (tip from a true slattern ).

Your DH sounds lovely and I'm sure he doesn't mind doing the housework if it means that you get the rest you need.

Kaloki · 18/02/2010 12:59

Sounds like you are doing really well, just keep taking it easy. I think you are gettinhg a lot more things right than you give yourself credit for

GetDownYouWillFall · 18/02/2010 13:57

welcome back memoo. It's good you've got some time just you and the baby. take care.xxx

plonker · 18/02/2010 14:47

Glad to see you're ok Memoo, have been worrying about you x

My offer still stands - if you need me to do anything for you, just give me a shout. Take care and be kind to yourself

duende · 18/02/2010 18:50

Hi Memoo, how has today been for you and DD?

scottishmummy · 18/02/2010 21:18

take this minute by minute,day by day.allow yourself to heal,eat well,sleep and let the meds gradually work

dont change your name. take care

memoo · 19/02/2010 13:53

Hello, Thanks for all the messages. Yesterday wasn't too bad at all thanks duende, DD a little unsettled as she is teething but apart from that everything was fine.

Plonker, really appreciate your offer. Please don't think I am being rude but I'm not really up to seeing anyone at the moment. Still can't even open my curtains yet. Working on that one though.

Having a weirdish day, I sometimes have these really vivid, violent thoughts about harming myself. I would never do it but understnad how people get to that point. Having these thoughts again today. Not the urge to do it but just thinking about it.

DD still a bit unsettled due to her teeth but she has settled down after I gave her some calpol. Finally having a nap now.

Know my posts aren't the most coherant but its a stuggle at the mo to string a sentence together.

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plonker · 19/02/2010 14:08

I don't think you're being rude at all - just want you to know that I'm right here if you do need me x

Keep talking on here and keep talking to your dh. He sounds wonderful btw

You're a strong woman and you'll get through this. Like Scottishmummy says, one minute at a time, one day at a time - you'll get there.

Take care x

Kaloki · 19/02/2010 14:20

memoo Those thoughts will go. Is there anything you can do to distract yourself? I tend to read or play silly mobile games.

duende · 19/02/2010 15:19

you sound very coherent memoo. how old is your DD? My DS is 6 months old and I think he's teething now too (cut the bottom two a couple of weeks ago) - either that or he's just being a whingy 6 month old ;)

My friend who had PND told me she used to get those thoughts too, about harming herself, or the baby. She had some counselling and said it helped a lot.

Is your DH around this weekend? can you get some rest or do something nice together?

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