Am I being petty/too sensitive?

[sb9]

Hello,

I suffer from depression and know i have chatted to some of you on here. Just trying to work out if im being petty or too sensitive as i know depression does that to you.

Went to my mums and stayed last night and she just says little things a lot which hurt my feelings and make me feel cross. For example;

I dropped some of my daughters dinner when i was putting it in the bin, her response was ' isnt your mummy useless?'

I asked my daughter if she had trumped (lol) and my mum said ' oh whats your mummy blaming you for?'

We had a takeaway and i had the starter and then asked to get another plate for my main, both my mum and step dad teased me and laughed at this saying i was fussy but i said my starter had a strong flavour and didnt want to get it mised up in my main but they still laughed.

It makes me feel like a child and down. I really want to enjoy my parents but always come away feeling a bit naff!

Thanks ;)

They are gently teasing in the way they normally do, and because you are depressed it's hurting.

i get just like this with my mum and siblings when I am dpressed. It makes me feel like shit. And I know it's not them being mean because they can say exactly the same things when I am mentally healthy, and I find it hilarious.

Yes, but saying things to your daughter like 'mummy is useless' is more than gentle teasing. I wouldn't like that said about me, especially as dropping things doesn't mean you're useless. Would you be happy with a friend talking about you in this way?

Does your family realise you find these things hurtful? It might be worth pointing out to them. Also, without trying to read too much into it, if they talk about you in this way, does it link in with your depression?

Thanks, yes it does link in with it. There isnt much point talking to them as they get all defensive and then i feel bad for bringing things up. I wouldnt even think to say that to someone if they dropped something. Yes it is teasing but i can take a joke but why at my expense? Will post soon as no time now but thanks for replying

It is very complicated but i always get this sort of thing ' isnt your mummy cruel' when her milk wasnt ready. It is all to boost her self esteem as she wants to be the best, adored etc. But is very draining as it means i am undermind or made fun of. My mum is lovely apart from these sort of things. It gets me down as i dont want to go round as much or ask her to help as it always makes me feel inadequate ;(