So I finally get to the GP

[LittleMarshmallow]

and was basically told that I was wasting the health visitors time and that obviously i would be upset given the circumstances and that there isnt much to be done.

Why did I bother asking for help? someone remind me please

A GP told you that? Seriously?
I think you need to get yourself a new surgery that is appalling.

Yeah then when i tried desperately to explain how i was feeling it just felt like she never listened at all.

I told her i used to self harm and her reply was well that normally goes with an eating disorder, to which I said yes which is what my previous gp thought I had as I dont eat when i am stressed /worried. I was told this was normal

She asked me if i was still taking the anti-depresents prescribed by the gp and i said no as they werent helping and she just ignored this completely.

i left thinking it was a waste of time, i didnt manage to actually make her understand and i have been fobbed off to some other person.

the gp did ask if i wanted another appointment or if i thought that was sufficient i kindly declined no point repeating the above again thanks very much

I would see if a different gp could see you. Perhaps ask the practice which gp has expertise in mental health isues?

That was appalling from the gp and all people deserve more support than that.

I have taken a baby step and email uni to see if I can go for counselling through them.

Does anyone have any tips on how I pull myself together on my own? I know this is going to be hard but no one else is going to help and I am sick of asking for help to have it chucked in my face.

Everything is a mess so where do I start to sort it all out?

Stupid stupid GP. Same thing happened to me. It really knocks you back, doesn't it? Please try another GP if you can. Don't be put off, some GPs are really good with mental health issues, others ignore it.

I hope you can find someone to help very soon.

This is actually the third time I have asked for help, I cant bare asking again or at least not right now. Between the GP and the health visitor.

I have seen two different doctors and a health visitor and one is intent on removing my son into care for no reason, even ds's nursery say this that when they called yesterday the hv was hinting that I hurt ds when I dont.

I hate how they manage to damage what little confidence you had to begin with and I didnt have that much, but to tell me that it would be my best interests to lose my house, car and everything else and live on benefits because I would get a council house was of no use. There is nothing wrong with benefits but when a huge part of my problem is being isolated that spending all day every day in my house would make matters worse.

Please change your Dr's and go and see a different GP. They are not all like that and most are really really helpful and sympathetic.

Do you know anyone who could recommend another surgery near you? You wouldn't have to tell them why you want to change, just ask if what their surgery is like. As with everything in life there are good and bad doctors.

Unfortunately when it's taken you a lot of effort to go and ask someone for help, the last thing you need is for them to be a rubbish doctor.

Unfortunately I dont know anyone down where I live, this is my second gp since I moved here in August the first one was even worse

I think there is only one left so will look it up and see what I need to do to move.

Good luck, I really hope you find a new GP that's better than the two you've had to deal with so far. I know how hard it is to finally recognise you have to ask for help and I'm very and that you've had such bad experiences after having done that.

The health services are meant to support you and your child. Why not phone MIND, the charity - they can be really helpful. If you search for the mind office in your town and phone that number you can tell them, confidentially what is going on for you - especially what you shared here - and they can provide an advocate to attend meetings with you, offer support and tell you what your rights are!!

yes like keziahopes says MIND is a charity which can help you. they may have a number of a mental health crisis team who can help you. your gp should of done this for you and i am shocked that they can be so unsupportive. good luck and i hope you get the help you need soon

Please go to another GP.

In the meantime, to help yourself -

• get as much sleep as you can
• try not to drink alcohol if possible
• eat as well as you can manage
• try to get as much exercise if you can (if only walking about briskly with a buggy).

Have you got anyone who could go along with you to the doctor / elsewhere as an advocate?

There is no one, my mum who is a nurse is of the opinion I should grow up.

I am trying the sleep thing but I keep having nightmares and waking up or ds wakes up so it isnt happening and that is making me more exhausted.

I do get out a little at lunch as I need to move ds nursery from one to the other and walk there and back so I suppose I am doing something right.

PLease find another gp plus have a look here too.

I know you feel like you are fighting everyone on your own but remember why you are doing it.

I looked at the mind website but there is nothing where i live as it is in scotland.

I managed to call the other gp and all i need to do is go and get the forms so if i can get out of work ontime tonight i am going to try and do that.

Managed to do a few bits and pieces last night like the dishes and washed ds's clothes. The house is still a state but he has clean clothes so at least to the outside world it looks like I am coping.

here you go try this one then

Do they have SureStart in Scotland? If so and don't work every day, then you can refer yourself to Homestart (free) where someone can visit you once a week for a few hours - support you and child in area you need help with.