Feel like i dont fit in

[ilovemy2babies]

I really enjoy my job and up until a few months ago i felt really happy there. I thought i got along with everyone and we all had a good laugh but these past few weeks ive just felt like i dont fit in there anymore.

I get on well with all the people i work with except one person. I feel she makes my job so much harder, she doesnt speak to me, ignores me if i ask her to do something and basically just makes me feel rubbish at my job. Lets just say theres alot of tension between us.

Now im starting to feel everyone is against me. Its a really close staff enviroment, everyone tells each other everything about their personnal lives ie family problems. I cant do that though, its like recently i had family problems and people at work could tell something was wrong because i was quiet but i just cant open up to them.

I feel like i just dont fit in there and i feel as time goes on my confidence is dropping day by day.

Sounds like there are a number of issues here.

1. If you manage to get along with everyone else but not this problem person, it sounds like the problem might be hers. Do you know whether other people have experienced similar problems whne dealing with her? I know it's hard, but we can't always expect to get along with everybody and sometimes all you can do is be civil when you have to be and crank up the music in your head and ignore her the rest of the time.

1. I have a similar issue when it come to telling people stuff in that I am inclined to be a clam, not out of choice but just because I am like that. The important thing is whether you have people you can talk to about stuff, friends, family, partner, so that you have peop;le to give you hugs when you need them.

1. Lots of things don't last forever and a job that seemed perfect a few years ago may not always be. Perhaps it might be time to consider moving on.

I know what it is like to be unhappy at work. I hope things improve for you

Thanks tabbycat

Horrible for you but essential to keep it in perspective.

If you've worked there happily for a while, your colleagues will know you don't witter on about your home life all the time and will accept that. They like and respect you. Why should that change because someone else is sullen and unhelpful? And from the boss's point of view, you are good value because you're not wasting time talking about your lovelife.

It sounds like this one person is jealous of the happy relationship you have with your co-workers and is trying to disrupt it. You could ignore her or you could try to include her. Maybe if she feels like she belongs more, she'll stop behaving like a twit.

But it's definitely her problem, not yours. Don't let her get you down.