I can't escape the stress

[twoisplenty]

I can't go into any detail, but the ongoing stress has been 10 years so far, and counting...

There are so many issues to deal with, and there seem to be additional challenges popping up all of the time.

I decided to start councelling four months ago, but that has brought up childhood memories (bad ones) that have also stirred up emotions.

Today I feel like I could explode with the stress.

FOr the first time, I have the feeling of pins and needles in my chest.

I could just cry endlessly. I can't escape the situation I am in.

My marriage is suffering, but my dh who I love dearly, also faces the same challenges and pressures as me. We are facing it together which helps.

I am not depressed. I had depression years ago, and it isn't the same feeling. I can get out of bed in the morning.

Although, come to think of it, I don't enjoy socialising any more, I am avoiding my extended family, and I always crave my night time bath and bed...

As I can't avoid these stresses, there is nothing I can do, is there?

You may not be able to avoid these stresses but there are ways of coping with them to make them less stressful to you.

Please speak to your doctor about how you feel. Feeling stressed can be caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain and seeking a medical intervention is not a sign of weakness but a chance for you to relax and admit that sometimes modern life can be incredibly over-whelming.

If your counselling is too painful then trying an alternative or supportive approach might help you.

Don't give up. Life is hard, but it is also incredibly rewarding and certainly not worth giving up on.

Thanks allstarprincess. I do find the counselling painful, but I also think that it needs to be done. But it is so so hard.

I do wish the stress was caused by a chemical inbalance. That would be easy to sort. The stress in ongoing with no end in sight, and is mostly to do with life with my disabled ds. It puts a strain on everything. There is also another area in mylife which is very stressful but I won't talk about it here.

I decided to go to the doctor so I have made an appointment for Wednesday. I hope he prescribes something, because I can't keep this level of stress going. I'm exhausted. Drained. I'm wondering if I have anaemia as well seeing as my diet was/is so poor and I am so tired.

I am not giving up.

Thanks for your response, the last sentence especially is lovely.

depression doesnt alaways make you unable to get out of bed. I had severe depression and couldnt sleep so stayed awake all night some nights and only had 3-4 hours napping on others. It sounds like depression,you are 'craving bedtime',which is you wanting to sleep and shut yourself away. Is it still the problems from the other thread with ADQ

Hi Alypaly. Yes, same problems. But other problems too that I cannot discuss here, that are ongoing and very stressful. RL friends can't really relate to the problems because no-one else has had to face such things. Sorry for being cryptic, but the problem itself doesn't really matter, it's how I deal with it.

I am thinking along the lines of mild depression, seeing as I feel deflated and tired and sometimes exhausted. I have had enough of everything but I can't get away from it all.

Counselling seemed a good idea, but I didn't realise that it causes such intense emotions. And I never foresaw my old ed return. That's under control at the moment, but now my family have guessed which is very bad because I feel I am being watched by my dh and my parents. I want to be left alone.

There's no solution really, I've just got to get on with the counselling, get on with the stresses, and fight off my parents!!

And get some tablets from the doctor, I think.

wish i could help with the other probs too

That's very kind alypaly. There is one other RL friend who has gone through the things I am (cryptic again!) but she is in a worse state than me...and my dh is helping enormously, we are supporting each other, but we both feel the same way, that it is never ending.

At the moment we are thinking up ideas to cheer ourselves up and get our relationship really strong. So far, we have decided to sort out our social life and have some FUN.

is it what you have been discusing on the thread with adelicate. god social life would be nice can i come

No. I originally went to the counsellor being overwhelmed with the stress of my and dh current situation (the one I can't discuss) and the counselling was also to help me cope and come to terms with our ds disability (cerebral palsy and epilepsy and severe learning difficulty).

During counselling, childhood issues were inevitably discussed. That led to the return of anorexia, from my teen years.

The counselling so far hasn't even touched upon my ds! Just childhood stuff. I could relate to ADQ thread because, although I did not suffer her kind of abuse, I did suffer emotional abuse.

In short, the counselling will help but will take time.

Oops just re-read message - the "no" was in answer to your question about "is what you have been discussing on the thread with adelicate" not "can I come" Sorry

i thought i couldnt come then

Hi

It sounds like your feeling a bit trapped? Whatever the situation is, its making you feel very overwhelmed.

It's hard when the problem solving is long term.

I am here too if you need to post.

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