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Horrible, intrusive thoughts about baby being hurt, can't sleep!

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YanknChristmasCrackers · 06/12/2009 21:44

I finally broke down and told DH what's been going on tonight, and he suggested I tell you lovely people and see if you could give me any coping strategies.

DS is 15 weeks old, and he's absolutely wonderful. I had very bad antenatal depression that is really well controlled now with citalopram. My mood is great, the mental health team looking after me is very impressed with how well I am doing.

However....for about the last week or two, I've been having these really intrusive thoughts about DS being hurt. It's to the point where it keeps me awake and sometimes crying most nights. And now it's starting to happen during the day too. I've just been sobbing in front of DH, didn't even want to tell him what exactly the thoughts were, but he finally convinced me.

I keep imagining someone stomping on DS's head. It's not me, it's someone else, usually teenage boys, and they've got DS on the ground and are kicking him and stomping on him. I am crying now just writing that. It's so awful, and the more I try not to think about it, the worse it gets.

DH has been looking up info on intrusive thoughts and all evidence seems to be that this is really common for new parents. I want to stress I have no thoughts of deliberately hurting him myself. I don't think I have PND.

I would love to hear if anyone has any suggestions as to how I can make it stop? And frankly would really like to know I'm not alone in this. I should be sleeping loads as DS sleeps through the night, but I'm getting more and more tired from lying awake every night.

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starlight99 · 07/12/2009 14:38

It's good to hear you're feeling a bit better.

Just want to reassure you, you are not going mad I think this is quite common.

I watched a documentary about the Jamie Bulger case and it deeply deeply disturbed me. I think I was much more affected than I would have been before my DD was born.

Even though I turned the TV off before it was finished, the thoughts kept coming of what they did to him, and I kept imagining what if it had been my little girl.

Awful awful feeling, it distrupted my sleep for a while.

I think we are just so protective of them we can't help ourselves imagining the worst case scenarios sometimes.

hairymelons · 08/12/2009 14:55

Glad you're feeling better. I know it's not at all funny, but Colditz made me smile with recognition- I was convinced at once point that DS's persistent cough was due to hidden asbestos in our house. Even got my builder BIL to invesigate! Don't know how he kept a straight face.
Anyway, hope you're sleeping soundly soon

HinnyPet · 08/12/2009 18:50

Hairymelons is totally spot on with the visualization STOP technique, works a treat when you have visions of child falling off 12 ft decking only I use a big red X over the image, the deep breaths, then move on......and the alcohol works too!

poshsinglemum · 12/12/2009 04:15

I have this sometimes and I think it comes with the overwhelming resposnsibility of looking after a dependant. It's so easy to imagine what could go wrong and it's horrid.

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